there is this guy i like and he knows i like him. we have daily conversations. There is a school dance coming up and i want to go with him, but i am sooooo afraid of rejection. help
2006-10-07 08:10:06 · 28 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just ask him. what's the worst that can happen if he says no? it'll suck for a few days, then you'll learn from it, grow from it and move on. you'll never know unless you ask. so just ask!
2006-10-07 08:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by woodpecker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Whenever you want something, there is always a risk of not getting it but you can't not try just because you may not get it or you will never get anything you want.
If you want to go to the dance with him, ask him. He may say no but then again he may say yes. Your chances are 50/50. If he says yes then enjoy. If he says no, believe in yourself and know that it is his loss and there is someone nicer and better suited for you just around the corner. Start taking risks now and get over your fear of rejection or you will soon be old and gray and never have had any fun.
Good Luck and remember 50/50 is pretty good odds.
2006-10-07 15:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what's the worse that could possibly happen aside from rejection if you ask him? He may be feeling the EXACT SAME WAY!!! And since guys used to be the ONLY ones who did the asking, I wonder how many relationships went by the wayside because he was too nervous and too afriad of rejection.....??
If he says no, what, seriously, is the worst thing possible that will happen aside from feeling so badly about being rejected? Will you actually DIE? Your mom & dad will have to go to your funeral because he said no? Trust me, I do know how you FEEL like you want to die, but there's no other way to find out if he'll go with you, and if he does reject you then the days will pass where you just feel like dying, and school will be out, and then you'lll be out of school and someone else will come along who asks you and you'll reject this perfectly wonderful guy who now feels like dying from rejection, but eventually, you'll grow up, mature, and find someone that you really click with and he'll click with you and you'll forget about that day you asked....and you were NOT rejected!!!!
So, what will you wear to the dance??!!! If he rejects, then his loss!!!
Good luck and please just do it. Walk up to him, and naturally we try to finid that perfect moment when he's not surrounded by his friends and/or a ton of people to do this. Swallow your nerves and just ask him. Casually like it's not the big deal it really is, because you'll never know unless you try, will you? Just like you can't win if you don't play!!!
Hope that you do this, for yourself as much as anything. I'd love to know if he says yes or no!!!!
2006-10-07 15:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by raquelha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good time to call him and when you do, say that you think the upcoming dance will be really fun and that you can't wait for it. Then ask him if he's going. If he says yes or that he's not sure, say something like, "Hey! Do you want to go with me to the dance?" And keep a positive attitude. If he says no, keep smiling and just say, "Oh, OK. Maybe I'll see you there!"
Chances are better that he'll say yes than no
2006-10-07 15:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having daily conversations, I doubt he will reject you, good time to find out, you can do it, can't hide in just thoughts forever, then it ends up being, you rejecting yourself! Have fun at the dance!
2006-10-07 15:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that this weird guy asked you to the dance and so you told him that you already had a date. Ask him if he would mind being your date - so that you can save face with that other weird guy. Tell him that since you're friends and you trust him, you know you'll have a good time together. Then during the dance you can flirt with him. It will work like a charm, trust me. ;)
2006-10-07 15:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by ggirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, i like had the same problem. the dance was yesterday and i didn't end up going with him. just casually walk up to him, talkk about the dance, then casually say "hey, you know what, i want to go with u" before you can stop yourself. if he rejects you, he is missing out and you deserve better.
i hope i helped
2006-10-07 15:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay just make a note askin' him if he would go to the dance with u.I'm sure if you're cute he'll say yes.Trust me I've done it a lot of times and they say yes.
2006-10-07 15:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by yadira m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't ever know until you ask. Just be confedent and yourself and ask him if he wants to go to the dance with you.. If he doesn't don't get mad, some guys might not like going or they already have a date. Just keep talking to him and one day he will be yours.
2006-10-07 15:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by roxanne c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no pain, no gain. just ask him up front, we get rejected at times part of life and learning. but u will never know, unless u try. life is to short for indecision. so just do it. NOW GO
2006-10-07 15:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by mattool2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it and ask him. You've gotta try. If you're rejected, it will suck, but at least you'll know that he's not interested and then you can move on.
2006-10-07 15:12:34 · answer #11 · answered by S J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋