This has been realli weird. This week, both two of my ex's (serious relationships) are now socializing with me. My one ex asked me if i wanted to come over and watch football tomorrow and I don't know what to do. I want to b friends since we havent talked in two years. Should i even consider going over? And i do have a boyfriend and we'll b together for a year in Nov. and its serious. But all i want is a friendship, is that wrong?
2006-10-07 07:53:35 · 19 answers · asked by Lydia J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't be friends and hang with your ex. How would you feel if your new boyfriend was spending the day with his old girlfriend
2006-10-07 07:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jonathan I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be wrong to desire a friendship, but you are in a relationship team now that should be your main priority. Imagine how your boyfriend will feel when he finds out you are hanging out with someone you used to be intimate with...or better yet, reverse the situation and imagine your boyfriend started hanging out with girls he used to be intimate with. Not okay, right?
I have had this happen to me, so I know the temptation. For one, it is extremely flattering when an ex sees the error of their ways and wants to be close to you again. It feels almost like they are unrejecting you.Secondly, our ex's know us and there is something comforting about that. But you need to put your current boyfriend first. This means that starting up friendships with guys who were and still may be attracted to you (and therefore a threat to your current relationship) is a very VERY bad idea.
2006-10-07 15:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by BadSarahBad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really wrong, but can cause prblms;
- It's SO easy to fall back into a relationship, with someone you're so familiar with.
-The Ex may think "We're getting back together".
-Your boyfriend may think or feel the same way and jealousy might be his next feeling.
just to name a few.
I've been there, a couple times, and learned to shy away from old relationships. It always wound up a mess.
2006-10-07 15:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out these guys' intentions. I would talk to your boyfriend about this. Maybe even bring him with you it's not too awkard. Wanting a friendship with your ex's isn't wrong at all, but you need to make sure that's what they want and they don't want something more.
2006-10-07 14:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by yblur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I think my bf's ex tring to be togather with him again, I will not be happy AT ALL. even just keeping touch with her as a friend will be really bothering me.
so, think wisely.
Cirtain kind of situation puts ppl in trouble, so try not to be with him in private place I suggest as other person said.
I don't think it is good to be togather with ex again even you call it friend especially when you have someone.
I hope you just focus for your current serious realationship. :)
2006-10-07 15:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience . I do not keep in contact with any of my exes both its very likely for one or the two of you two revisit old feelings again and its not worth it
2006-10-07 14:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Babylinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one asking the question, so I think you are looking for a bit more than friendship. permission refused
2006-10-07 15:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be coming back hun. Sorry to tell ya'll but you better stay away from that boy he is just using you as a rebound or back up!
2006-10-07 15:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go ova your ex house but if you do bring your boyfriend with you so if your ex tries something your boyfriend is right there with you.
2006-10-07 15:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are dead wrong. you shouldn't even be in a relationship. if i were your boyfreind and i found out you did that i would kill both of you. why don't you ask your boyfriend if you can go over. tramp
2006-10-07 14:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by chesswiz9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋