WHERE CAN I GET FREE ADVICE ON GRANDPARENTS RIGHT? I AM IN CALIFORNIA. MY SON PAYS CHILD SUPPORT AND SHE HASN'T LET ME SEE HER(SAGE) FOR OVER 2 MOS NOW. SHE HANGS UP ON ME. ETC.......I WAS SEEING HER SEVERAL TIMES A WEEK BEFORE THIS.SOMETIMES OVERNIGHT FOR 2 OR 3 DAYS. I AM JEWISH AND HER MOTHER IS A NAZI....SHE HAD THE BABY WHILE MY SON WAS IN THE ARMY AND SINCE SHE MARRIED AND HAD ANOTHER BABY WITH THIS NAZI SHE IS INCREASINGLY DISRESPECTFUL....SHE BLAMES ME FOR HIS INCARCERATION BE CAUSE I CALLED HIS PAROLE OFFICER WHEN HE THREATENED TO KILL MY ROOMMATE. IT IS HORRIBLE. THERE MUST BE SOMETHING THAT CAN BE DONE. SHE IS ON PROBATION FOR HATE CRIMES AND HER HUSBAND IS IN JAIL. MY SON WON'T GET INVOLVED , OTER THAN KEEPING UP WITH CHILD SUPPORT.
2006-10-07 07:47:52 · 14 answers · asked by quintanafi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why thats stupid
your like there second parent
do something.
i cant stand problems like this
2006-10-07 07:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by laura_jamela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If what I am reading is right, your visitation with the child is presumed under your son's visitation rights.
Ask your son for a copy of his visitation order. Have him begin implementing his visitation. He should then be bringing the child to you, and he should return the child at the specified time.
You need to stay out of everything else. It is nothing you can control and you endanger the realtionship with the child when you antagonize the mother. (What's done is done.)
If your son won't go get the child then you may have to petition the court to allow you to transport the child to and from the mother's. A good policy is to meet her somewhere other than her home, this goes for the daddy, too. Same thing when you return the child. This keeps everyone on neutral ground.
Check the link below and continue an online search.
Oh, and when you do speak to these people speak respectfully. Do not react to what they have to say. Just take a breath, speak as you would to a friend, and respond. Respond, not react. So know your rights, communicate them calmly, and respond to her with respect. This sets the tone for how you intend to be treated. Eventually, when she disrespects you, you can say, "Dear, I don't speak to you like that....Why would you speak to me like that?" If she gives you an inappropriate answer just say, "Well, I do see your point." Because you do, even if you think she is wrong.......right? Respond, don't react. Take a breath. Aim for the end result, that precious time with Sage.........
The link below should be a good place to start.
2006-10-07 10:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart aches for you. You may want to talk to social services or a lawyer to find out what your Grandparent"s rights are. Try to save all documents of contacting the mother, this way the lawyer can see that you have tried to stay in the child's life. And try not to let ethnic differences get in your way after all your grandchild has "Nazi" blood. Good Luck
2006-10-07 09:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, First u are a Jewish women, you are more than likely loud and very opinionated so this is where you are wrong, you need to hold your tongue and just kiss her
butt if you want to see the little girl! Sorry but as a grandparent they took our rights away in Illinois so i don't know what the law is there. But you need to do what ever!
2006-10-07 08:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is call social services ask them what you can do if your son is paying support he has rights to see his son...also some states have grand parents rights you should check into this see if your state has them.oh you may try going on line and trying from there..kids need grandparents in there lives my son loves his dads parents...mine are deceased...and i let them and the x take him as much as they want i love them like my own parents and would never keep them from him...good luck
2006-10-07 08:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that sounds horrible - I would go to court - a lot of lawyers will offer a 1/2 hour free consultation but that maybe only in Canada.
2006-10-07 08:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what to say. I hope a lawyer or someone who knows one can help you. Keep posting this and hope that a good smaritan can read this and will help you. In the meantime, try googling.
2006-10-07 07:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about your situation but from what I know only the parents have rights.You have to get your son involved.Its the only way!!!!!
2006-10-07 08:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to www.grandparentsrights.org. They can tell you what your best course of action should be, or at the very least point you in the right direction.
2006-10-07 08:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call around & find some kind of legal aid help. I'm sure there is someone who would take your case.
2006-10-07 07:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry lady but you aren't the parent!!
Seeing your grandchildren is a privilege NOT A RIGHT!
2006-10-07 08:34:05 · answer #11 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋