Obviously I'm debating on whether to move out or not. I currently live in Delanson and want to move closer to my school and job in Scotia. My parents of course don't want me to move out. I'm recently engaged, my fiance doesn't have a car,so I need to bring him w/ me. But we really need a place closer to our jobs and my school. Another thing is that my home life isn't very good. My older brother is very rude and ignorant to others needs. My parents are constantly fighting with him, so I get no work done.Or he'll be making such loud noise that I can't do any work. I'm a full-time student and work. So the only time I have to do work is after work before I have to pick up my fiance and after I drop him off home.
We also think since we're engaged we should be able to live together, but my parents think we're too young. What should we do?
2006-10-07 07:37:04 · 3 answers · asked by Sarah K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh and I've already talked to my parents about moving out and they've told me they'd find me and bring me back home like a child, basically. And they've also said they'd disown me.
2006-10-07 07:45:58 · update #1
My "now" husband and I had a similar situation while we were engaged. We were both going to school and working....his Mom was an alcoholic and would just try to pick fights with my husband when he would get home from work. This made it impossible for him to study. We were young, too....20 years old.
I typically don't encourage anyone who is not married yet to move in together...however, your situation sounds a lot like ours was and it was one of the best decisions we ever made.
Oh, and we're still married 15 years later. :o)
2006-10-07 07:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by cara_in_stl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? If you're an adult and engaged then your parents have absolutely no say in the matter. If you're not, then perhaps you SHOULD wait.
Going on the assumption that you are at least 18 or will be very soon, I say that if you can afford to do so... then yes. By all means move out of your parents' house. I'm not sure what your fiance's situation is but I would highly recommend that he get his own vehicle. Having you driving all over hell's creation to do things for yourself as well as for him and having virtually no time because of this will wear you and your relationship thin sooner than you think.
It's obvious to me that the environment of your parents' house does not allow you to do your work effectively or even live comfortably. Definitely move out.
2006-10-07 15:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point in your life you need to start to take care of your own future. It sounds like moving out is what would be best for you. Talk to you parents about the moving out situation. Let them know you can't do your best in school and work with the distractions from your brother. It might be a mistake to move in your fiance at this time just because I would think you want to preserve a good relationship with your parents (if you have on in the first place). It's a tough decision, I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-07 14:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by yblur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋