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Question

I met a man over a dating internet site. The relationship started off great, but then something crept in that I can't get a handle on. With one hand he pushes me away while with the other hand he pulls me toward him. Now it is verbal bashing on both sides. I think this is what is called a love-hate relationship, I don't know since I have never encountered this before. We both can be so loving towards one another and then so hateful towards each other. Can someone talk some sense into me please and help sort this out?.

Each and everyone of you has put a lot of thought into your answer and have expressed your views wonderfully. I thank each and everyone one of you for this.

Answer 1

Hello, have you met him in person yet? If you have then it's because he is still searching profiles for someone better...that's why you're getting the yo-yo treatment. If your relationship with him is not fulfilling enough for him to stop searching for someone better...then you should sever the ties. there are many men that use those sites to get many women at a time...they are players and they use the lonely hearts scam to sleep with every woman they can find...I bet he told you everything you wanted to hear, seduced you by seeming like the man of your dreams, blackmailed you with your own emotional needs---and now is manipulating you for his own pleasures. The bickering is because you know or fear what he may be up to...the more you fight for a relationship with him...the worse your fights are going to get. He may be justifying his need to keep searching and sexing up other women by pretending in his shallow mind that he has broken up with you every time the two of you fight...but he knows you'll be there begging for his affection if he can't find someone else to fill his time. Don't let yourself be victimized in this fashion again. cut him lose and be done with it.

Answer 2

Internet dating can be fun and risky for a while. I think he is seeing someone else. The relationship with this person might be the samething your dealing with.He might be torn between the two of you(thats why he pushes you away. When he push you away and you get mad that gives him the time he needs to spend with someone else. He has to find a way to get away so what the best thing you can do? Cause a argument. The relationship is at a level of verbal bashing. Remember something you say in anger cant be taken back or excused. This man isnt really for a one on one relationship. I think its a matter of him already being involved in a relationship. You are his booty call his jump off.If you felt something wasnt right is usually isnt. I would allow verbal abuse to happen it might be leading to something else.

Answer 3

i dont think u shud be too serious abt this relationship because u have not even met then how can u describe this as a love hate relationship. see i'm not saying tht u cant love someone thru the net but in todays times its very impractical to just do things like this. atleast meet him upfront once and see wheter u both like each other physically as well. but nws as far as ur question is concerned then these things do happen between ppl. most of the times these relationships get into this stage due to non cummunication or frustration on one side of the relationship. so be careful, once u start gelling once again things will get better.
all the best.
ta tc.

Answer 4

Well I've never really been in a relationship but you two need to re-think your actions towards each other. What causes him to push you away and what causes him to pull you towards him.

The fact that you express this means you're not comfortable with this so you should speak to him and express your feelings.

Also some people love to provoked their partner in someway that they think gives them some emotional satisfaction. May be this is the case so get an explanation from him and think wisely.

Answer 5

Dating over internet.....................well when one does that then u dont know the other person- in person,u know him as he wants u to know him.Its true the other way round too.Slowly expectations start building up on both sides.Now that the two of u have met i think what has happened is that intially it took of on a great start coz u knew only what u had told eachother about yourselves but later on when u got to know eachother u both rated eachother badly on your own individual scales.Maybe he is on a look out of someone who fulfills his expectations so until then he just wants to have fun with u or simply is taking u for a ride till he finds his Miss perfect.Ditch him before he ditches u,otherwise God forbid the next question you will be asking would be 'how should one get over with a heart break'.

Answer 6

I suppose persons can consider unfastened to have the opinion that they wish. They must be in a position to specific there opinion, and those that concentrate (which must be tons of persons) must have an open brain, and probably difference there opinion. Some evaluations won't change into some thing, however it doesnt imply there nugatory. Even if no one treasures your opinion, you must. Its what makes you who you're.

Answer 7

Have u met in person or what? The relationship seems destined for failure. A LOVE-HATE relationship is a relationship of 2 people who do not know what they want.

Answer 8

How well do you know this guy? How long have you known him? Why would you want a relationship like that? To me, that's not normal. Move on and find someone who really loves you.

Answer 9

Run like the wind....you don't need someone hateful. Too many people out there who are not hateful to deal with that crap

Answer 10

If he is putting his hands on u,then leave him.If hes just talkin trash,im sure u could handle it!