I feel bad for the child. I feel like I should send one anyway. But would she let her keep it? Would I just be wasting my money? What do you think?
2006-10-07 07:09:50 · 19 answers · asked by Michelle 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sometimes kids have too much stuff. I know so many kids that have too many toys. You can't even get into their rooms. It's enough that the kid gets to have his/her friends around for a party.
Don't buy the gift, save your money. Take your kid to the party and let her party like a rock star.
2006-10-07 09:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the age of the child. If we're talking a young child, they're not necessarily going to understand why there aren't any gifts. But more than that, I think that nobody should feel compelled to buy or refrain from buying a gift; a gift should ideally be given because you want to give it, and I think that if you want to give the child a gift, then you should do so. I'm not usually a proponent of ignoring a parent's wishes, but the gift is for the CHILD, not the parent, and you should do what you and your daughter want to do, and what your heart tells you to do. What the parents do afterward is up to them - at that point, the gift belongs to someone else, and you no longer have control over it. At the very least, the child will know that you and your daughter wanted to give her something, and sometimes that's the most important thing of all.
2006-10-07 14:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Feeling bad for the child does no good. Sending a gift anyway might make other parents feel bad & you might offend the parents of the birthday child. They might throw it out. Yes, it's a waste of money. The gift of good party memories should be sufficient.
2006-10-07 17:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by mortyfint 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the parents say "no gift" there is a reason, usually that the child is already spoilt (no space left in the playroom to store any more toys) and the parents know that. It is their job to explain to the child why there won't be any gifts from the children and I would suggest you send your child to the party with no guilt. (The child will get something from their parents, no worries). Find out if you can contribute some other way (flowers to the mum, charity, help during the party etc)
2006-10-07 16:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The parents don't want people to feel obligated to bring gifts, it's also a good example for teaching a child that it's a celebration with friends, not a celebration with gifts in mind to look forward to.
Proper etiquette in this instance is to respect the parents, there's nothing wrong with it, we as a society just have that thinking of gift giving, which also is fine.
2006-10-07 14:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong for *you* to feel awkward? No. However, the proper etiquette thing to do is respect the invitation and the parents (and perhaps child's) wishes and not send a gift. It would be rude to disrespect someone's polite request and do it anyway.
I have thrown a few parties for myself, and I request no gifts. I want to celebrate with friends, and focus on having a good time and coming together to celebrate. Perhaps the parents of this child are thinking the same way; they want (and want their child) to focus on celebrating their childs' birth, and not on gifts.
2006-10-07 14:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberley Mc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel bad for the kid too and I dont understand why they would say no gifts... I wouldnt feel awkward about sending her tho as it was their request. Did they give you an alternate option?
For my son's third birthday I asked that he not get any toys, only learning books or things like that. I felt like I shouldnt be asking for specific things but then again my son had too many toys and I would have had to take everything he got back anyways, ya know. It went well that way.
2006-10-07 14:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) If the parents say no to gifts, I would suggest you respect their wishes and not waste your time/energy second guessing why they would not want their child to receive birthday gifts from their little friends.
2) Send your chlld! I hope your kid has a great time.
P.S. I hope the parents at least have ice cream and cake ...
2006-10-07 15:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by YaYa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is probably a reason the parents don't want their child to receive gifts. You should respect their wishes and let your daughter go and have fun with her friends.
2006-10-07 14:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by analystdevil 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No,don't feel bad some parents think that it's charity when you send gifts to there children or they don't allow their children to have certain things and they might feel like you might send something for the hild that they might not approve of.That's ok just respect there wishes
2006-10-07 14:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sister Queen Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋