ex keeps calling . .. .says to be friends . . . has a bf?

Question

she broke up with me 6 months ago and she started dating this guy right after . . im talking like a week after . . but anyways i tried to get her back the first 2 months then i went NC since the middle of june. . .she has called or texted or left me a voicemail like 10-15 times since then and i havent answered or contacted her back. . .she just recently got into an official relationship with this guys and i noticed she tried to get ahold of me the day they started going out . . . she calls about once every 1,2,3 weeks and she called me drunk last weekend 3 times , 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 1 night and she said she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . .even though ive told her atleast 20 times that i cant. . . after we broke up she insisted we were going to get back together sometime . . . and she also is the type of person that cant stand to be alone and always has to have somebody. . . if she is completely happy and everything then why does she try to call me

also we were together 2 1/2 years . . . when she started dating him she even admitted it was just because he was there and that she cant stand to be alone . . i just dont understand why is she calling me all of the time like this just to be friends when she knows we cant because ive told her 100 times. . does she want something else? also what i really want to know is its been 4 months since ive talked to her and she keeps calling . . . .if she just wanted to be friends wouldnt she get the clue by now that i cant b/c the way things ended . .and we broke up for no reason at all . . she said she wanted to date around . . . . but she has been with the same person . . .i guess i just want to know what she wants . . i know what i have to do . . .but i really still love her . . . but i want to know what she wants because im not gonna contact her unless i know for sure what she wants so i dont get hurt again

Answer 1

you have to realize that you were once a big part of her life. sometimes girls will do this when they feel insecure in their new relationship. The best thing to do is try and be friends with her.

Answer 2

Girls can be very insecure, especially when starting a new relationship. She was with you for a long time, and likely feels very safe with you. She's probably scared to let go of you completely for fear that if her new relationship backfires on her, she'll be left with no one. I know it sounds completely selfish... but I think a lot of people have been in that situation before, myself included. She may be second guessing her decision to leave you, and confused about what she wants (ie. the drunk phone calls and emails). You're obviously a very important part of her life because she is still in contact with you. The decision you need to make is whether you're still able to have her in your life as just a friend or whether you need to cut her out altogether...both very difficult, I'm sure. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

If it was me not to be harsh or anything i would go your seperate ways. You will be better off in the long term. It sound like she just wanted to get out and explore her options but on the other hand keep you on the back burner for security. Guys dont need that. There are plenty of girls out there that will walk on water for you. Dont waste your time being there for her when she wouldn't be there for you. She dumped on you once and she will do it again. The grass will always be greener on the other side for some people. Loose her number!

Answer 4

Sounds to me like she's just playing with your emotions. She knows that if she breaks it off completely, you can actually move on. But if she keeps calling you and playing with your head/heart she knows you'll be right there waiting. She wants to hold all the cards and doesn't seem to care that what she did and keeps doing is tearing you apart.

Answer 5

She is OBSESSED and this is verging on STALKING! I would contact the Law in your area and show the proof of all this contact. Ask for a restraining order...
Then I would block her number from ALL of your devices....