I love my bf w/ all my heart and we have a long distance relationship, I travel a lot to see him or vice versa but i usually pay most of the stuff, he never buys me anything,for my birthday he only gave me like a 10 dollars necklace, and he does have money cuz he's talking about buying the 80g ipod which is like 400 dollars. Im going in november to see him and currently im not working b/c im doin nonpaid internship and sometimes when i have time i work for promotions in events par time in the weeknd but he is working fulltime and he wants to pay half and half everything, for me is no problem, i can charge it in my credit card and pay it little by little but I feel like she should be more understanding and pay the airline ticket and then i can pay food and stuff over there. I've had boyfriends that pay almost everything, im not a gold digger cuz i usually offer to pay my half but still, Im the woman, I want to be paid sometimes and feel like a queen. He never does anything nice for me
2006-10-07 06:38:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I hate to break it to you, but he's just not that into you. If he were he would want to spend more on you. Right now he is just going through the paces since he lacks the spine to break it off. Do yourself the favor and move on. If he is never the person initiating the contact and doesn't put forth the effort to try to keep you then you deserve better.
2006-10-07 06:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kathya L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're doing all the leg work. Why is it you are always going to see him? If he has a job and has the financial means, he can see you right? I was in a long distance relationship and got married to him eventually. He doted on me like crazy, flew up every two weeks, got us hotel rooms, rented cars, took me out for dinner. I didn't have much money at the time because I was going to school and was only working part-time. However, I took the time to meet him online, call him, spend what money I could when he was in town on little presents. It was a 50-50 thing. We both knew we were appreciated and important to each other. I don't know, but it sure sounds to me like he has other priorities and if that isn't your gig, move on. His loss, not yours. But I know it'll be easier said than done. Perhaps approach him and see how he reacts when you think he should start putting himself out a little more, if he thinks you're crazy - there's your answer! If he gets the message and begins to come around - even better!
2006-10-07 07:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by daff73 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to cancel your trip in November and take some time off from him and find out what you really want. I agree that if he can afford to give himself good stuff, he could afford to give you something nice for your birthday. Now is the time to review your relationship and if you are not working and he wants you to come to him, he should be paying for the ticket. Also, you do not want to charge too much to your credit card, because you need to pay it off and the charges you are incurring on it are going to be high. Tell him you need to think and then just don't have contact with him and get involved in your life. Do things that you like to do and work on weekends when you are able to. You should be prized as much as you seem to prize him.
2006-10-07 06:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the difference if he pays half and you buy the food or if he pays for it all? You never mentioned what you got HIM for his b-day so there is not enough info for me to base a valid opinion. I do know one thing for sure, if you are not happy/comfortable with the relationship then you should end it.
2006-10-07 06:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by hogzilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He is the way he is and he will not change. If you stay with him you will never be treated like a queen. He will miss your birthdays, valentines day, anniversary's etc............. Your young and there are plenty of guys that want to treat a lady special. Don't waste anymore of your time.
2006-10-07 15:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and find someone who thinks that men should pay for everything. You may have to look for an older man.
2006-10-10 08:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship depends on money, then there's a problem. And if he's cheap while he's "courting" you, think how bad he'll be if you marry him!!!! Dump the penny-pincher now.
2006-10-07 07:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, women DID hollar way back when about Equal Rights... and NOW they complain about their BF/DH all being cheap. But if you don't see it that way, then tell him to cough up some cash, or you won't be visiting....
It is as simple as that!
2006-10-07 06:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you say that he never does anything nice for you, then you shouldn't love him or even be in a relationship with him.
2006-10-07 06:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he is a cheap looser. He can be replaced by someone who will treat you like the Queen you are. Don' let him treat you like that.
2006-10-08 05:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by truelynlove225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋