then when you are about to meet she tells you that her left leg is paralyzed from the knee down. she wears a thin brace for support. the foot is also slightly turned inward and she has somewhat of a limp. is she still everything you've been looking for, or are you going to move on. can you overlook her disability?
2006-10-07 06:03:15 · 28 answers · asked by Tara F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
overlook it man. Whats the big deal?? If she really likes you, she wouldn't just go to a different man. Think about it man.
2006-10-07 06:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by james w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Criminy
That's a tough question. I guess I'd be put off for having been duped by this aspect of her physical appearance. That if she can lie about this, what else could she lie about......yanno?
However, I do see why people would want to down-play such things about themselves.
But to be honest, it would probably put one heck of a wedge into the relationship for me, that would bother me, and ultimately create problems.
I don't see why full disclosure isn't just a given with people.
People always want to deny the fact that physical attraction is important. It may not be AS important as someone who has a good heart and other valuable personality traits, but it is definitely very important. If their personality was really THE most important thing, then you should conceiveable be able to have the love of your life completely over the phone where you get just the personality. Obviously that isn't true.
2006-10-07 13:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay let me understand that she is EVERYTHING and only has a thin brace and somewhat of a limp?! Not only could I overlook the disability, I probably wouldn['t notice it at all. Get over and go for it!!
2006-10-07 13:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Hendo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I could. That kind of thing isn't really very important..it doesn't define the person. I would try to help her if she had mobility limitations to be able to go and do anything she wanted to do. I think I would try to find humor in the situation so it wouldn't be anything she would be sensitive about...in other words join her as a partner in the problem. Remarks like hey...is that a party for two legs only or can anybody go? would be helpful to show the issue was fully accepted and not a problem to me. I knew a girl like that at school and she was actually one of the most popular ones.
2006-10-07 13:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by steveshere3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to tell us something?
A person with a limp is, generally speaking, NOT what others are looking for. However, if such a person was to reveal their "disability" early on -- rather than waiting until the other person has created an image in their own mind of this person -- it would be less of an issue.
2006-10-07 13:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not matter for me. If she was everything I was looking for then yeah I would go for it and not care what others think. Not everyone is perfect, so if that person is everything you looked for in life you would not let anything get in the way even if it's disability or any other problem. Peace out!
2006-10-07 13:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by what_it_do? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she were worried about this being an issue she should have told you from the beginning. Unfair, however, this is something that should be shared because you never know how people are going to react and it's better to weed out the bad in order to find the good.
2006-10-07 13:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'm not going to worry about something like that. At least she had the decency to say something beforehand.
However, I once met a woman online, who told me she was a little chubby. That was apparent from the picture she sent me, and I wasn't too concerned about it.
When we met, rather than being just a little chubby, she was one of these people who has to struggle to make it through a doorway. It was also apparent that she had understated her age by about ten years, and I'd say that's about how old the picture was.
I thought to myself, "Ok, I'll be polite, and have dinner with her."
Do you think I called her again?
I can accept people's imperfections. It's not like I don't have any of my own, but I'm interested in forming a relationship with a woman who lies to me, to get me to go out with her.
2006-10-07 13:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tara, from your illustration, if I were you, I wouldn't renerge on my earlier vow for that gurl. S'ppose you marry her as a cute, sexy hot gurl and she loses that part of her body in an accident. Would you divorce her because of this? As a guy, I would rather go for 60% personality and 40% looks. That's my own opinion, ok! Cheers!
2006-10-07 13:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty comes from within. I have never seen a 90 year old on the cover of cosmo, yet she has a husband who says that she is the most beautiful person in the world.
Disability nothing.
2006-10-07 13:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by James S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋