My dad's a good guy, until he gets drunk and becomes an abusive jerk. He used to be like this when I was little, but then he went to rehab and got better. It wasnt until recently that he started drinking again. I don't know what to do anymore. My parents were having problems before he started drinking again, and now everything is that much worse. My mom doesnt even try to stop him anymore. She just lets him hit me. Sometimes she even provokes him to hit me. I think she likes it when I'm the one in pain.
Since shes obviously not planning doing anything, I have to be the one to do something, but I'm not sure what that something is. I called his AA sponser person, who suggested an intervention, but they cant make him go back to rehab and chances are it will just end up making things worse. I dont want to go to the authorities cause he could go to jail, and i would still be stuck with my mom.
Please, someone help me... tell me what to do, cause I have absolutely no idea.
2006-10-07 06:00:24 · 11 answers · asked by Di 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well Di I wish I had the answer for you that you wanted to hear. However, I feel that you do need to go to the authorities, including the police, to have this violence against you stopped. Hopefully your dad will gain his sobriety back and start once again to treat you correctly. But if that does not happen then you need to do something to protect yourself if your mom isn't going to help. Besides perhaps having the police speak with your dad might be the intervention that he needs to realize that he is being abusive and needs help. Good luck and please watch out for your own safety.
2006-10-07 06:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an adult you trust. Ask if you can stay with this adult. Ask them to help you decide where you are going to live. Do you have aunts and uncles, do you have grandparents? If not then ask this adult to help you contact social services for placement in foster care.
Talk to the guidance counselor at school. Everything you say is confidential. The counselor can be a good neutral person to go to.
Expect there are going to be bumps in the road. Not everyone is going to get why you've made a decision to remove yourself from the abuse. This is your business, and yours alone. Just let them know you made a decision that was right for you and that is what you are going to do. End of conversation. The steps you take are very adult. Let people you trust help you. It's your responsiblility now to take care of you. You can do it. Just be your own best friend and it will be ok.
2006-10-07 12:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been to an alanon meeting? I am not sure how old you are but there is also alateen. Please get yourself some help. You do not deserve this. I am not sure why your mom is not looking out for you but that is wrong. If she is not going to help you please go to a friend or another family member. Do not ever let your parents allow you to think that any of this is your fault. If you can't get any help from friends or extended family go to the authorities!! And pray dear child pray. The Lord will help you if you let him. Please do not allow these people to keep hurting you. Let someone help you. God bless you and good luck!!
2006-10-07 06:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by abcdefghij 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart this might sound crazy but i can only tell you what i was told to and did do trust in the lord Jesus the son of God to work thing out pray and believe that he will take care of you m abuse was far worst than yours and he was very sober he was totally conscious of what he was doing and my mother stuck her head in the sand and did nothing about it up to this day .had the same fears that you do ,it could take years,months or even day to get results but trust me there is no one else that can help you like Jesus just trust him it does not matter how young you are just pray he will make a way whether it is to move you out of the home to a happier place,change your dad you just open up to him tell him all the things you cant tell anyone make him your best friend he' Friend that sticks closer than a brother he will send people to help you. i did it and it worked have faith in God and forgive your parents i will be praying for you OK.one more thing to keep in mind it's not your fault and every thing happens for a reason. look at me how could i tell you what to do if what happened o me did not happen i guess i went through it so that i can help others .God bless you keep strong
2006-10-07 06:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by redants 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though you at least need to find a safe place to go when he drinks. Talk to the AA person about it, or perhaps a school councilor.
NO ONE deserves to be abused.
2006-10-07 06:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you might not want him to go to jail, but if he is hurting you or your mom, then you need to get help. Are you in school? Please talk to one of your teachers or a counselor. They are required to help you and will know what to do.
2006-10-07 06:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lorin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police.
2006-10-07 06:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if grown you should leave now!!!!!!!!!! got to have a friend ya can count on..... if not grown you should go to a teacher or other trusted adult a.s.a.p.
2006-10-07 06:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no alternatives..Either he go for counseling, or go to jail..If I knew who he was, I would turn him in..in a new york minute....
2006-10-07 06:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call 911 next time!
2006-10-07 06:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by paulisfree2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋