i just turned 20 i have a three year old daughter and i'm 6 months pregnate with twins!! and my daughter tara wont accept the fact that she will be an older sister what should i do? and advice on baby names?
2006-10-07 05:25:28 · 12 answers · asked by sweet thang 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Congrats! Are they Fraternal or Identical?
You can try google searching by putting in "Baby names". When I was looking for ideas on naming my twins, I didnt go to any special site although you can also try google searching "twin names" or "popular twin names" For those, though, you kinda need to know what gender your twins are ;) Otherwise a regular old baby name site will do just fine.
2006-10-07 05:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by twinsin06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tara may not want to give up being the baby right now but she'll warm up. For 3 whole years now she's been the baby. Just include her in as much as possible, you know, shopping for the babies, preparing their room, and even naming them. Make sure that she is not lost or forgotten in all of the attention that you and other relatives well be paying to the twins and their birth. She'll warm up it will be O.K. Good luck, I'll pray for happy, healthy, babies and sister!
2006-10-07 05:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A 3-yr-old is not old enough to understand much of this except the fact that she will now be having to share what was hers exclusively- such as your attention. In time she will adjust. My son was very jealous at 22 months when my daughter was born. It doens't last, but there are things you can do to help your daughter adjust.
Spend as much time with her as possible.
Let her help with the babies, such as getting your a diaper, bottle, etc, when she can- IF she WANTS to. Never force it, only keep offering or ask her for help. If she declines, say ok but ask her again each time. Kids usually love to help and think their parents depend on them.
Make sure that when the babies gets a gift, your daughter gets one too, even if it's something small! After all, she's celebrating being a big sister. I did this with all of my kids at birthdays, showers, etc, until they were old enough to understand gifts w/o getting jealous and it worked like a charm.
Ask your daughter for her opinion on what the babies should wear that day, or what pajamas to dress them in at bedtime. Maybe she would like to select a book for you to read aloud. (Yes, I read to my kids as babies- it's good for them and helps them to appreciate books later.)
When your daughter realizes that the babies won't push her out of your love or take over her life she will learn to accept and even love them too. Just try and involve her as much as possible- her security and self-esteem is feeling threatened right now.
Good luck!
As far as baby names, how did you decide on Tara's name? Are there any names that mean something soecial to you? Something that stands out? You can try baby name books or babynames.com. My husband and I selected names for our son by making a list of names that we both liked, then narrowing it down. My older two sons were both named for guitar players that I idolized as a teen, and my daughter was named for a little girl I met at Christmas one year while working at a Santa photo stand! Inspiration can come from many places.
2006-10-07 06:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will get over it. Include her as much as possible in everything, from getting the crib(s) ready to naming the babies. She will feel more in control if she is involved. Let her go with you to the ultrasound if she wants. I would do rhyming names, tara, tamara, sierra for girls. I am not sure about boys names.
2006-10-07 05:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My four year old was so mad when I got pregnant again...she wouldn't even speak to me the rest of the day when I told her. The thing that made her come around was explaining all the things she could teach the baby...like words, how to do things, and stuff like that. When they think they are going to be the boss of somebody, they really like that.
2006-10-07 05:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by qamberq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you and daddy need to explain to your 3 year old that she will be an older sister, and as her PARENTS, it's really not a matter of choice. Your next best step may be to ring up the nanny! If you're unable to handle one baby in the home, you'll never manage 3! :)
2006-10-07 06:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is a hard time for you little girl she has had you all to her self with no sibling to have to share mummy with so give her lots of reassurance that you love her and try getting her involved take her along to a couple of appointment maybe a scan, with my second child i tried to involve her with everything help choosing names, we went baby shopping she loved it i also got her a gift which i gave to her after the birth of my son telling her that it was from him. good luck
2006-10-07 05:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by charlotte 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a friend of mine did with her 22 month old, she was jealous that mommy was preparing for another one, so every time when "mommy" bought something and said it was for baby,she would secretly buy something small and cheap for her as well, then when the baby arrives and she sees her/him for the first time, tell her that this gift bag full of items is from her tiny sibling.That should help her with the first impressions.
BABY NAMES!!!!
My favorite are
Andrew, Micheal, Nathan,Ethan,----for boys
Sarah,Rachel,Danielle, Ali----for girls
But there are sure lots out there,check out babynamesworld.com
2006-10-07 05:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by wallsuds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters...YOU are the parent. Kids don't have a choice in decisions at this point. There are great book at the library for this type of situation. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 05:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tammyorr 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋