Its her who started to shouted at me first.
2006-10-07 05:05:24 · 8 answers · asked by ria g 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sit her down and talk to her, maybe she is having a bad day, let her know that you don't like it when she "shouts" at you, maybe you can come to a compromise and talk to eachother without all the shouting, good-luck!
2006-10-07 05:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by CaReBeAr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all "right" in our own minds, and we all think that our view is the correct one. Understandably, out priorities can sometimes conflict with one another. We choose how we feel about things, based on our own agenda. And we choose how to react. Think about it, if a speeding motorist cuts you off, passes you, and speeds ahead, you might choose to be iritated and call him a maniac, and assume that he is a jerk that disregards other drivers. Or, you might be srurprised, slow down a bit, and think that maybe that guy has diarreah, or he's in a hurry to be somewhere, and just didn't see you. Your choice.
So as far as your mom is concerned, she could have been upset about something (maybe something you did or didn't do, or maybe something that has nothing to do with you). Whatever the case, you were the target for her frustration. She might be regretting it. If that is the case, she might not know how to go about the damage control.
You should take the high road, and let her know that you regret the incident, and you are sorry for YOUR contribution to it. Ask her what is was that she got so upset about, because as soon as things became escalated, your beain shut down and you were recting purely on instinct. Tell her that now that you two are clamer, you wish to discuss whatever the real issue is.
This will demonstrate your strength of character and your maturity, which will reaffirm that your mother raised you to be strong and responsible, and think for yourself. You will both "win" this way, because you will learn more about each other.
Parents go about parenting the best they know how, and when kids mess something up, it upsets the parents by causing them to doubt themselves. They think "we should'shouldn't have dont that with raising them" or "didn't we do a good enough job of parenting them". Kids don't come with an owner's manual. So when you demonstrate strangth, courage, tolerance, respect, gratitude, and responsibility, you show your parents that they did a great job with raising you, and that everything will be all right.
2006-10-07 06:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun! I know it seems like she should appoligize, but if it was me I would apoligize to her. I'm a peace keeper in that I don't like to feel angry at anyone, apoligze to her first. Some times in life we have to do these things because someone else may not be able to, Seriously, I've had to apoligize to a few people that did not know how to apoligize back. Hopefully you and your mother can, and things are a lot nicer when you are not angry inside at someone you love. Hugs! Von
2006-10-07 09:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by bry7josh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need a cooling-off period, and then you can try sitting down and talking about whatever set off the argument in a rational manner. If it's your mom who's in the wrong, she should apologize.
2006-10-07 07:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by tkron31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could be the bigger person if you wanted to. Or you don't have to apologize in a way that says you're taking responsability, you could just say "I'm sorry about yesterday", and she'll probably say "ya, me too"
2006-10-07 05:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on why she started yelling at you. if she had a reason then you should apologize, but if she just came at you for no reason then she should.
2006-10-07 05:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by sit down if you cant stand me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grow up
2006-10-07 05:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I f she started it then she should apoligize.
2006-10-07 05:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋