he started nursery 3 weeks ago
2006-10-07 04:52:42 · 48 answers · asked by clair r 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Dont make a fuss as he will pick up on this & do it even more as it gets your attention.Try to ignore it........I know....easier said than done...good luck...
2006-10-07 04:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by nightowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try something like a reward system like saying that if he doesn't say bad language for a week he'll get a treat. Keep reminding him during the course of the week so he doesn't forget. Ask the nursery teacher every day if he has been swearing. And if he does swear just put tour foot down and say "No treat this week, we'll just have to try again next week." That's what we did when my 5yr old brother was hitting people at school and it cleared it right up. Perservere.
2006-10-07 05:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you swear?
Find the solution to that one and pass it on!
And if your thinking of using punishment as a means to an end. Then don't forget to apply the same thing to yourself and anyone else you hear swearing!
If you can find a way to do that without violence, then it its the only way that will work.
Swearing words good words bad words all words.
To a young child its a sound and it gets a response.
If the response meets it head on then its over with.
That does not mean bully into submission!!
2006-10-07 05:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by sotu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your son swears just totally ignore this behaviour! easier said than done i know, especially if he has just done it in front of friends, family etc... I am sure he doesn't know what these bad words mean so the only other reason for swearing is to get attention and if you or anyone else react to his swearing you are giving him what he wants- attention! If someone gets a good audience they will do the 'show' again. give it a week of totally ignoring him see if he stops. good luck !!
2006-10-07 09:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by aitchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you react negatively he knows that he is getting some attention from it. I am an early childhood teacher and i tell the kids in my class that those are potty words and they have to go to the bathroom to use them. Unfortunately, those words are apart of today's society. I do agree w/ ignoring them, but in public you are judge on your parenting if you do. Instead give him substitute words. Also, you can Just tell him "if you need to say those words it's OK just do it in the bathroom." Once he realizes that you don't care it kind of looses the effect. Therefore, it will start to bore him and he will move to the next phase. Trust me, as Pre-school teacher, I have heard it all. If his teacher has experience she wont even be bothered by the words, because that is just what they are "words" nothing more. Just choose your own words carefully and remember that little ears hear and mimic everything. I also don't call the words bad, because by saying "those are bad words" when they are mimicking grown-ups i am, to them, calling their mom, dad or grandparents bad. So instead I call them potty or bathroom words.
2006-10-07 05:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Adriana27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my son started swearing I would get down to his level and tell him that it's a mommy and daddy word and little boys shouldn't say it because it's not nice.
The key is staying calm. Children are very capable of understanding that certain things are only for mommy and daddy (adults) so that isn't really the issue. It's letting them know that it isn't a big deal but it isn't acceptable either.
This has worked fabulously for us. Occasionally he says something that he knows he shouldn't but it isn't a constant problem. And I know that the reason he says it in the first place is because I can't watch my potty mouth...
2006-10-07 05:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he knows what they mean and then explain that they are very bad. Then go have a talk with the lady at the daycare so she and whomever else works there can be more aware and look out for the language being used. If you notice him looking for a rise out of you after you have explained these things to him, then just ignore him. I did all these things with my 3 boys and they know better than to ever let me catch them saying a bad word.
2006-10-07 05:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it's very bad to say those things, and you will be very angry if you hear him saying them. Also, would be a good idea to talk to someone in charge at the nursery as he'll naturally pick up on things he hears.
2006-10-07 05:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about the good old fashioned remedy - wash his mouth out with soap - - - Forget the responses about slapping etc - that only installs anger - and slapping is not a form of punshment for swearing. Also, sit down with him and explain that swearing is not ice - that it does not make him look cute or cool - good luck mom, I am sure he will be fine -
2006-10-07 05:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by W. E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used a bit of kidology on this one. I told my son that swearing makes the mouth dirty, and sweeties can only be eaten with a clean mouth. He found me out in the end tho, but found it funny. Whaterver way you decide to deal with this one, it's only really a phase, he will get bored with swearing as soon as the shock value wears thin. Good luck!
2006-10-07 05:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alert the nursery management about this and ask them to be on the lookout for that kind of language, and specify that you want your son corrected if he ever says any of it.
And at home, administer the appropriate punishment.
2006-10-07 04:56:34 · answer #11 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋