I feel so hurt by this man?

Question

I feel so hurt by this man i went out with him on a few dates and it was lovely and then he was rude to me, sent mfe an email said i needed a shave and lots of hugs and kissess, well i was shocked, i loved being with him but got angry at him saying that and sometimes still i miss him, should i contact him or give up it was an embrassing thing for him to say, i just loved being with him, he invited me to a firms do. i liked going out iwth him but i did tell him to buss off, but i kinda still like him though. i don,t know. I am not going to take disrespect though but i miss him maybe i will meet someone else i don,t know i would like to meet someone who likes me, he could not have liked me to be so rude not really. will i ever find anyone i will really like, i don,t want to go out with anyone again and have the same thing happen. I sometimes get the urge to contact him though, but i know it would be wrong and he might get worse and i don,t want that. so why do i want to.

Answer 1

You got a close-up look at the real man inside the skin. Luckily you were only offended. Kiss this one good bye and count your blessings that you didn't marry him before you found out how he really is.

Answer 2

Its ok to re think good times we have in life. I do it all the time, from an ex gf i loved. I still think of her, but i know things would not work out again because of the situation. Theres no harm in thinking about those good times. Its not a sign or anything to get back with the person, but just a reminessing of the memories. You will find another person. There are tons of people who are compatible for you in the world!. Its just a matter of us bumping into them. He doesnt treat you right so, id just forget any furture type relationships with this man. You will find a better mate who will love u for you , and not treat you like yesterdays garbage! .

Answer 3

Ok I will tell you this a guy that will do this once will always do it again and you never know he might turn out abusive...you will definately find someone. Just give it time...next time just take some time to get to know the person before taking him in public not all guys are like him remember that and don't base one relationship on another..you could meet the sweetest guy ever..lol good luck

Answer 4

If a man can disrespect you in any way he is not worth it and is definately not the one for you.

Don't do him any favours by chasing after him or phoning him, the best thing you can do to get back at him is to move on with your life and show him that you aren't mourning him, you don't need him and your life is a hell of a lot better without him.

Go out with your friends and use some guy as a rebound (sounds awful I know but it works), the sooner you get yourself out there on the dating scene the sooner you will get this prick out of your head and you will feel sooo much better for it.

Answer 5

Well miss....why did he say you needed a shave?

Why are women beyond reproach in hygiene? DO you need to shave? I'm assuming he was talking about your face....upper lip? Was he trying to be polite in telling you and you took it too personally, or did he really say this to you in a rude manner?

See, that's some necessary detail that is not included in your account. I went out with a woman (essentially a blind date), who I found out at dinner, was a feminist. Apparently part of this role is to look as skanky and nasty as possible in public. She had facial hair and regrettably, got an accidental glimpse of her hairy underarms. I noticed her hair legs when I met her at the restaurant. This was a summer date and she had a short sleeved shirt and nasty looking shorts on. I was totally embarrassed to be with this woman. She had a rotten disposition, and it was all I could do from getting up and walking out on her when she started actually trying to formulate words and phrases.

I didn't say a thing to her. I was polite, and she *probably* didn't realize that I thought she was a repulsive freaking pig, from her physical appearance to her personality to her thoughts and philosophies of life, if you could call them that.

Should the guy have said anything to you if you did have 'hair' issues? No, I'd say not since he didn't know you very well. It's rude, but that doesn't mean you should discount what he said either.

My point?

Take the criticism this guy gave you, whether it was rude or not and consider it! Maybe you do need a shave. Maybe you need to polish up your personal hygiene habits.

My thought is: Why would someone say something like that, which is so overtly outrageous unless it didn't carry some truth.

Unless you have some sexual kink in which you like hairy women, MOST men find it repulsive. I do, and nearly all my guy friends do too. We like women who are soft, smooth and silky to touch. We want to kiss a woman who has soft, sexy lips, nice hands, smooth legs, shaved underarms, and velvety to the touch pretty much everywhere. I don't know of anyone that wants to snuggle up to a wire brush.

I'm NOT trying to be rude to you, but say I was on that date with that 'wildebeest' I was talking about a moment ago ---- met her and saw that she had almost as much hair on her legs as I do. What could you say that ISN'T rude? "Hey lady, why can't I tell the difference between your legs and a gorilla's?". You just don't open up a conversation about the need to shave hair off places it doesn't belong on a woman. You can't NOT be rude.

So......go look in a mirror....and see if you need to --- shave yourself. Check your face, check under your arms and check your legs, and then go sit in a tub, or start up a hot shower, lather up and grab a razor and get to work.

On the chance this guy was just being snotty towards you for whatever reason, then chalk that up to some guy that has a nasty personality and you shouldn't need to worry about the guy, and you don't need that kind of disposition in your life. Let the guy go EITHER way and move on with your life. I'm sorry you got hurt, but take stock in yourself and go find someone that will be polite and treat you the way you feel you want to be treated.

Good luck to you miss.

Answer 6

I think you just liked feeling loved and loved having someone that could talk to you and listen to your problems. He was the one to do this while you guys were dating and now you probably don't have anyone to share your feelings with so you want to return to him. This is not a good idea.

This man is a jerk and he doesn't deserve you. He probably just wanted to hook up with you and use you. But he probably realized that he was wasting his time bc you're not that type of girl so he sent you that terrible email to push you away. Guys can be very cruel. Good luck

Answer 7

each and every guy that has to stay in a society that feminism has tainted is harm with the aid of it. adult men have been demonized with the aid of feminism for 40 years. do somewhat prognosis. If there have been adult men's learn courses in faculties the place anti-female extremists have been required analyzing, i think of you will understand that may no longer be too "swell" for women human beings. ...would basically "harm" them. If the teachers in those courses taught bearing directly to the evil "patriarchy" the place women anybody is protecting adult men down, that would basically make adult men somewhat green with envy & bitter & it might basically force a wedge between the sexes. The opposite of that subject if found everywhere in the rustic in our universities. that's basically one occasion. do somewhat prognosis. Katie Couric on the right now teach can ask a bride that were stood up on the regulate if she'd "seen castration as an determination" ...for the absent groom. Did she lose her job? If Matt Lauer had asked a guy if he'd seen the genital mutilation of his bride what do you think of might have occurred? Ask Don Imus... Or Larry Summers.

Answer 8

Just take it easy!
You Do need to be 'Liked' By This man!
He Obviously has NO respect for You what-so ever!

You are Worth so Much More!
He is waiting for you to Contact him-then Do not!
Insults are NOT the way to create a Happy Loving Relationship!
And if this is a Sick game he is Playing - Then NO THANKS!

Answer 9

There is no question that he was probably rude to bring up a personal grooming issue after only a few dates. But is it possible, just possible, that he likes you SO much that he perceived just one little flaw that if easily corrected would have made you PERFECT in his eyes? Again, I'm not saying he was right, but just consider that maybe he had your best interest at heart.

Answer 10

Forget about him - easily said granted, as has already been stated, you have seen the real him - do you want that?

It sounds from your question that you are in a vulnerable state of mind at the moment, stick to your values - don't be treated that way