I like this girl that goes to my school. I logged on to a site called facebook and a message popped up saying she was single. I never asked her out because she was dating someone, but should I ask her out, or wait? I'm just afraid of being a rebound date and messing things up with this girl, but I don't want someone else to ask her first. Please help, what should I do? 10 points to the most logical and best answer.
2006-10-07 04:06:28 · 33 answers · asked by meflyfaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you just befriend her right now. If it is a hard breakup for her, she may not be ready to date someone else yet. If you give her some time, she might go out with you a litle bit later.
This happened to me. I had been dating a guy for around 2 years. Anyway, we broke up and another guy who is a friend just kept asking me out. Well, I couldn't handle it right then...I needed a little bit of time. Well, it really hurt his feelings and made me uncomfortable. If he had waited a few weeks, I would loved to date him, but by then couldn't because I had turned him down before. It is still one of my biggest regrets that I didn't date him when I had the chance, but I just couldn't handle it right then.
Besides, you don't want to be the rebound guy. You could tell her that you have been interested in her, and you would like to go out with her, but you know that she may need some time to get over her last boyfriend. Tell her you would like to just support her and be her friend while she takes some time to herself. (Girls get all mushy over stuff like that)
2006-10-07 04:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's like this dude. What happens if you don't ask her? that's right...nothing, your still not with her which will suck. What happens if you do talk to her? she may say no but what do you have to loose. Take some advise from a older guy. You are only young once and when school is done it's done. Don't regret the things you wish you would have done. One more thing. all these girls answering this question that say be her friend first....What ever you do do not listen to them. puke, give me a break. Once your on the friend list there's no getting off it. You will never have the chance to date her then. Does this sound familiar.... I like you and all but I just think of you as a friend, and then you are stuck watching her date other guy's.
2006-10-07 04:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by great dane fanatic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her and she's single then go for it, but be aware that you run the risk of being a rebound...however, that's assuming, perhaps wrongly that her ex was the one to end their relationship. If he did you might have a lot of baggage to contend with and depending on the length of time they were together etc. you might also have to consider the possibility that they may get back together which would not do a lot for your self confidence. If, on the other hand SHE ended it, then she's ready for something totally different and will not be shying away from meeting a fun guy that she can get to know without pressure. If she's finished with this guy for good, she'll not be jaded and depressed..she'll probably be open to your advances. I would ask her out and play it by ear..no point sitting back and wondering ''what if...?'' Seize the day.. she's not going to punish you for liking her!! Good Luck !! x
2006-10-07 04:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. First flirt with her and try to make her smile. A smile always brighten up person life when they are going through some issues. Then ask if she would like to go out and give her your number&email so she can call you. Always exchange numbers. Never leave it open for her to call you. Trust me they never call. So atleast you will have her number when she does not call within 48 hours. Ask her out over the phone and ask her where would she feel comfortable going. Only bring up her break up if she brings it up. Listen to her! If you are great listener than the ball will be in your court. Good Luck!
2006-10-07 04:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you ask her now there is a chance that you'll just be someone she uses to get over her former, but there's also a chance that she'll end up really liking you and staying with you. There's also the chance that she'll say no, but if you like her - then ask and see where it goes, otherwise you'll never know and always wonder, and that's far worse than being rejected.
2006-10-07 04:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Gray 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should wait a bit before you ask her out so you wont be the rebound guy. Rebound guys dont stay very long. So, its best to wait and not get your heart broke and ruin what you two could have had if you had waited til she was over the break up. If someone else asks her out before you do... dont worry, just be patient and wait for them to break up. Good luck!! Take care
2006-10-07 04:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait abit. Id imagine if she just broke up or had a relationship a while ago, she might either be abit confused about what she wants or needing time to breathe. Thats how it is for some of the breakups ive encountered.
If you come in at this sort of time, you either lose a shot at her cause of bad timing and will never get it back again or you do get with her..but since shes confused/wants freedom to breathe she might bring up troubles.
2006-10-07 04:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dabidu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meflyfaster,
Okay this is the deal. She may still have feelings for this guy. So asking her out on a date is a good idea, but be prepared, she may disappoint you in the final act. She may say yes to your date invitation, but she could be saying no to the relationship that you are hoping for. It takes a lot for a girl to shake off the feelings they have for another person. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, go for it.
TDCWH
2006-10-07 04:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by TDCWH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she just broke up w/ someone she might not be ready for another boyfriend. give it a little bit...not to long cuz like you said you dont want someone else to ask her first. if shes sad about her break up i think the best thing you can do is be her friend like you know her shoulder to cry on that way shell see you really care about her and after a lil bit go for it nd ask her out.
good luck
2006-10-07 04:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait a while. First, was the breakup bad and is she heartbroken? If not you can move in sooner, but if it was hard on her give her time. Try to be a good friend to her and it could develop into more. GIve the girl at least a few days... and go with what your heart says.
2006-10-07 04:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋