How do you bring up things that you like that others may find crazy? I'm not talking about anything extreme but toys, and spanking, etc. How soon is too soon? I know "just ask" will be the answer but how do you approach the subject?
2006-10-07 04:00:37 · 12 answers · asked by delaware_voyeur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well wait until you really have her hooked on you, if you do, then just bring it up, but if you think shes holding back, just charm her, be very romantic with her... and wait until she gives you hint or signals... you'll know what i mean once you see them
2006-10-07 04:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by isax0x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to generalise, but I'd say that after you've had straight sex once or twice, and if it's gone well, that's a good time to start sounding him/her out about trying out something a little bit kinky. You'll soon know if he/she is interested in the idea. But keep your avenue of retreat open, so if they react with shock or revulsion you can act like you were only joking.
2006-10-08 03:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do like any smart woman would do...have a frank open discussion about what it is that turns you on sexually...you may be quite surprised to find out that your new partner enjoys the same, or would consider trying it. Definitely find out before you have sex the first time, that way you're not wasting your time, or exposing yourself to std's needlessly....
2006-10-07 04:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't all that serious about the girl ...don't do it you may scare her off.
But if you have some feelings for her wait a bit and down the road the strangest things will start to happen, you'll start talking about the intimate things in your relationship
2006-10-07 04:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by tincre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't like to talk about it. Don't ask, just do it! If you ask us it kind of spoils the fun.
My camera guy took me out once and he never mentioned anything extreme but needless to say we had an extreme night!
lilmisslashell@yahoo.com
2006-10-07 04:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me in de2,
I will tell you from experience I have never had to bring the subject up in my life. It's a natural pregression in a relationship, believe me you will know when it's time, it will natually happen. AND THE WAIT IS WORTH EVERY MINUTE.
TDCWH
2006-10-07 04:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by TDCWH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose to wait until they're tied up. When I ask and they get nervous, squirm, or start sniffling and crying, then I put that on the list of things to do.
Every day is an adventure.
2006-10-07 04:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by thatoneguy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get naked, jump in bed, have the toys already there and say let's get after it!!
IF it scares em off, oh well, there are plenty others that like it!!
2006-10-07 04:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start by kissing then the resst is history ...mk?
2006-10-07 04:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say" i suppose a ride is out of the question".
2006-10-07 04:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋