I had a one night stand 3 weeks ago with a bloke who i consider to be an eligible bachelor. I havent had any contact with him since but i really like him and think we could have more than just a casual fling. But tonight i might be bumping into him and i dont know what approach to go for. Do i let off again ( if hes after sex again i mean he might not even like me!!) or do i hold out because i want more than that??? Help please!!!
2006-10-07 03:43:26 · 13 answers · asked by delaruedebbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to clarify he isnt someone i just met that night ive known him 4 years hes single and it happened at his flat and ileft in the morning before he got up so i didnt exchange numbers with him.
2006-10-07 04:24:20 · update #1
do whatever you think is right babe, and if it dont work out i will take you out!!
2006-10-07 04:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you know from one night stand if he was an "eligible bachelor"? No offence, but it looks like he literally took you for a ride, and was only "elligible" for one thing and one thing only...
A one night stand.
My advice to you in future, is to get to know the person first, before you sleep with them and if they dont like it, then they arent worth knowing in the first place.
In my experience, my longest relationships have been with people i have got to know first, (at LEAST a couple of weeks!).
This guy doesnt sound interested at all, and if he is it is for the wrong reasons-i.e a casual fling im sad to say that theres no future in this other than that-unless that is what you want? But oyu seem to want much more from him.
Tonight, if you bump into him, i would return the favour of his ignorance for not contacting you sooner after the "one night stand" (and so obviousley having the full intention that it was just a one night stand and nothing more)-give him the cold shoulder but be polite and show him that you arnt that easy, as to go with him everytime he clicks his fingers!
have a good night and get to know someone else, who is decent enough to not only want one thing (a one night stand) and thats the best advice i could give you!
Oh and make sure you look absolutely amazing, and rub it in even more!
Good luck! xx
2006-10-07 03:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um..... leaving before he got up gives him the message that's all you wanted, I'm not going to judge you for that though. However if you see him tonight and make eye contact give him a dazzling smile, but done go over. Let him come to you, if he doesn't then that's that. If he does, tell him that you enjoyed the last time you spent together however you would love to get to know him a little better and what his interests are. If he looks interested then hold off on the sex for a few weeks and see if you can really put this on the proper footing it should have started on. Good luck and enjoy your evening.
2006-10-07 04:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold out and see what happens. As for the approach, just go up and start talking like you've been friends for ever. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 03:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by willis_is_40 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A guy who believes in one night stand, is never MR. RIGHT. He's is just for you know.. one night stands.
2006-10-07 03:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he took the trouble to stay all night , he's an ok guy.
2006-10-07 06:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit too late to be playing hard to get don't you think?
Why don't you let him come to you... rather than chase him, that way you'll know if he's interested or not.
2006-10-07 04:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie29uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking, he probably went home to his wife and gave her a story as to where he'd been all night. and for your sake, don't sleep with people you don't even know !
2006-10-07 03:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, a one night stand was all it was!!!
2006-10-07 04:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see what happens
2006-10-07 03:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by paul b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋