I'm considering having a sit-down dinner at my house, a little more sophisticated and dressy than a regular party. But that's not the problem, the problem is with invitations. A good friend of mine just moved into an apartment with two other people the rest of us know from high school, but don't really see anymore. Now that our good friend is moved in with these two old "somewhat" friends, what do I do about them regarding the party? Do I invite them too? I know he'll want to know if they're being invited ... it's not like they're bad people, but we don't really talk to them anymore (one we haven't seen since graduation almost 7 years ago) and I don't know where I would put them anyway!
Ok, so any thoughts?
2006-10-07 03:39:50 · 11 answers · asked by Holly 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I run into this from the other end all the time. I have roommates who are friends with most of my friends, but are not necessarily as close. Sometimes the invite is for me, and sometimes it's for all of us. I take it upon myself to ask.
Anyway, if you want to take the chance to get to know these people again, you could invite them. If seating is limited and this is an intimate get together with people who are good friends all around, though, a simple explanation of this to your friend should suffice. If you want to, you could have a less formal barbecue or something later and invite a larger group of people. This should settle things nicely- if they get invited to something later they shouldn't be hurt at all by being excluded this time. They probably won't be hurt anyway- seven years is long time and they probably don't feel any closer to you than you do to them.
2006-10-07 05:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I did w/my birthday, was give an invitation w/that person's name on it. That way they know that they are the only ones expected. If u want 2 show some politeness or not 2 make any1 feel bad, u could say something along the lines of...u can bring a friend along or u could give the other roommates an invitation 2. It would be a good way 2 start a long missed convo w/them. It's all up 2 what u want 2 do. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 06:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by ginie_in_a_bottle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A formal sit down dinner involves a seating chart (or at least place cards) it isn't a time for drop-in guests as a cocktail party might be. If the inviting is done by phone then when you ask your friend, remind him that you can only fit so many at your table and that the next time you have a more casual get together you will be happy to invite his roommates.
Then you can forget about it.
2006-10-07 04:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your dinner party and not a house party. It is quite reasonable to invite only the guests that you want to serve. It is not polite to say that you wanted to invite someone when you really didn't. It is perfectly okay to invite certain guests from a particular house and not the others. Sometimes, I want a friend to come to my house for dinner but not their entire family and I say that it is a dinner for ladies only, etc. We sometimes get together for a "hen party" just to reconnect. So don't feel bad about not inviting the entire world to your dinner party - we would not fit anyway :-). Enjoy!!! Thank you for your question.
2006-10-07 04:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by BrowBrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your friend is engaged or married to one of these roommates, you aren't under any obligation to invite them to your dinner party. Just address the invitation to your friend and when he responds with his RSVP and he asks about the roommates, tell him that the invitation is only for him and seating is limited. I would hope that he would be mature enough to understand the situation. Though, you may want to accomodate him if he wants to bring a date (and one of the roommates doesn't count). High school is over and so are open parties!
2006-10-07 03:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to invite them. Just clearly mark on the invite that it's for your friend only, and if anyone asks, just be honest. You would have liked to invite them but you have limited space and you had to keep it a very small group. No one should be offended because of that!
2006-10-07 04:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by brainy_blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got in no way attended a occasion with out an genuine invitation. i think of it would be somewhat impolite of me to realize this and am not indignant if i'm not invited. a similar for if a pal has been invited and that they recommend I come alongside.
2016-10-18 23:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel obligated to invite anyone you don't want. It's your party and you can't invite everyone anyways. Good luck ;)
2006-10-07 03:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be really polite to invite them BUT you are under no obligations to - it is YOUR party do what makes you happy!@
2006-10-07 05:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no obligation to invite anyone who you don't want .
If he asks why tell him it's a small get together .
It would be rude for him to push the issue .
2006-10-07 03:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋