he said that he is not ready, what do you think I should do?
2006-10-07 03:28:36 · 22 answers · asked by sexy1black69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HELL NO! If your baby is less important than the one he has **** him! I have been through this you will regret it for the rest of your life!
2006-10-07 03:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by megs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all you should not be having sex with a guy until he is ready ----because you never know when a accident occurs. Second, he already has a child and probobly is not taking very good care of that girl. Third, at least he is honest enough to tell you he isn't ready and he is too immature for another child. Fourth, if you are able to have the child without being on any government assistance, then have the baby and dump the guy. If you are real young and not out of high school then get the abortion. Dump the pig and start over.
2006-10-07 10:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are ruined by that decision on a daily basis. It's not about him...in honesty, his part is already more than half done. He could have worn a condom and not gotten you pregnant, but like most men- I'm sure he didn't want to for his own selfish reasons. AGAIN -You are pregnant...it's about you and that baby. If you choose to give birth you will not regret it in the long run as you may very well have already gotten the best part of him. He is liable for child support so don't confuse that issue, but as he already has a child with someone else -you should keep that thought in mind that he didn't stay with her and he wont stay with you no matter what your decision is about this pregnancy -and he'll surely not stay with the next woman he knocks up either. He doesn't act responsible now and chances are that he wont be any better at it in the future. That child is your blood and bone...just one little swimmer from him. If you choose not to give birth and the two of you try to stay together he'll only have it in the back of his mind that when you get pregnant again you'll just have another abortion...once he feels he can control you and owns you like that...he will have fully dominated you and become bored with you and he will move on to someone else...either way...you'll always regret the child that you aborted. I wish you well with this endeavor. Keep in mind that not all women can give birth and that the opportunity for you to give life to someone who'll do great things in this world may not come around again.
2006-10-07 10:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in judging people but I don't believe in abortion. Ultimately this is your decision but what you have to be asking yourself is does he really love you. Why doesn't he want you to have his child? There are other options you can always give it up for adoption. If you have an abortion you are the one who has to live with the memories of what happend. You'll always wonder what that child would look and be like. I'm pregnant now and even though the father isn't around and I already have one I couldn't do it. I am considering adoption for this one though. I won't lie I want to keep the baby but I really loved the father and I know it ould be hard to raise two kids alone. I would never have been able to go through with the abortion and the father who isn't helping told me he'd hate me forever if I killed his child. If I were you I definately wouldn't have an abortion, I'd probably be so upset I'd leave him and do it all on my own. Also keep in mind abortion can ruin your ability to have kids in the future a friend of mine had one 7 months ago and they messed up, she spent a week in the hospital and can never have kids now. Thats one of the reasons they make you sighn a release. Keep in mind there are tons of us out here raising kids alone if we can do it you can.
2006-10-07 10:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he's not ready listen. You don't want to raise a child alone and you don't want to make him feel like you are only having the baby to keep him. It's a tough situation to be in. Ask him what are his intentions in terms of the relationship. If the relationship was fine before you go pregnant then I believe the two of you can work through this. Talk to him and when he talks listen.
2006-10-07 10:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by msladykm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really talk to him about the way u feel because it is sort of wrong 4 him to tell you to get an abortion when he already has a child but it is his fault if he was the one that got u peganant
2006-10-07 10:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by crybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't get an abortion thats the worst thing you could ever do don't care what he say for example what if that was him would he like to be took out of this world so don't get it alaways think of others house listen to the song with nick canien-can i live its talking about this lady getting an abortion and everything so use you mind honey don't let him talk you in to doing that
2006-10-07 10:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. if he can make love to you knowing that he can get you pregnant BUT not be a man to stand up for you and help raise your baby, what else can you expect in your relationship in the long run? the baby in your womb is innocent and wanting to live, please let him/her. he may not be ready, emotionally or financially, you will always still have your family and friends who can support you way better than the guy you chose to be with.
please do the right thing esp for the life inside you.
2006-10-07 10:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is immature,he is not yet a real man.Run away from this boy,he is not yet a man.He want to kill a baby that even is not yet born.He is a bad guy.My answer to this question is :No way Jose,he is not a mature man and never will be thinking in that wrong way.
2006-10-07 10:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What really counts is what YOUR values and beliefs are. The choice is yours. Try to think of how you'd feel if you got the abortion....can you handle living with that for the rest of your life? It's really up to you.
2006-10-07 10:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by tru_til_da_end 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should exclude him from the equation.
If you are pregnant and on your own, you need to decide what to do with your future(s).
Remember, you may not be able to have a child in the future.
Good luck.
2006-10-07 10:33:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋