I have a single family home, I have an upstairs (like a loft, but not) There are two bedrooms and my six month old shares a room with my 2 year old. Should I tell my husband to get busy on upstairs for us so my daughter can have my room, or should I wait until an age when it's not okay to have a boy and a girl in the same room. We are going to extended the house, but it won't be done quick
2006-10-07 03:24:28 · 10 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i would try to get started on expantion asap because your not going to want your kids in the same room too much longer for right now maybe until shes around 1 it is ok but after that id move them to different rooms but every parent decides something different you have to do whats right for you but i would start to add on so that you do have extra room when the time comes.
2006-10-07 03:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by momma3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with siblings (of any gender) sharing a room!
The only reason "something would happen" is if either child was emotionally disturbed or abused by another person first. The whole idea that we have to separate kids of opposite gender is nuts.
In the one case I do know of that involved sibling molestation... guess what? They were both BOYS! The elder child (the one who perpetrated the abuse) had been abused by a MALE cousin when he was younger. So much for the theory that a boy and a girl in a room is somehow "dangerous".
Now, having said all that, if finances allow it, go for the extra room by the time your older child is 8 to 10. There will come a time when the older one is going to want their privacy, and I think it's important if at all possible to give them that privacy. Not mandatory of course. How many of our ancestors grew up in a 2 room house with 5 kids to a bed? Plenty!!
It will depend on your children's personalities as well. My 2 boys are 5 years apart and by the time my eldest was 11, it was clear that they were not going to "just get along" and I arranged it so they'd have separate rooms. Now they are both happier, they hang out together when they both want to and have an "escape" from each other when they start to bicker. They are just very different kids and prone to arguing... not physical fighting, but yelling and screaming which was bad enough. If they didn't have separate rooms then *I* would be in the looney bin!
2006-10-07 08:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 11and 14. My son is the oldest. They have seperate bedrooms and I have my own. They go to their own rooms to begin with but every night, they end up in one of the bedrooms together if not piled up in my floor. What is wrong with a brother and sister sharing a room? Why does everyone always think it is terrible for kids to sleep with parents? When you are a single parent you could care less where they sleep as long as they sleep so you can get up and go to work. I see no problem with the kids sharing a room, especially not at your kids ages.
2006-10-08 17:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by stacy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might wait a little while so the construction dust won't irritate the baby's respiratory system, but otherwise it really depends on your financial situation and how you feel about them sharing a room. There's certainly no harm in it for now. I knew a guy in school who was still sharing a room with his sister when he was a freshman in highschool. While I do think THAT's a little extreme, my point is you have time.
2006-10-07 03:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely nothing wrong with having a young boy and girl in the same bedroom! Ever seen Mary Poppins? jane and Michael shared the "nursery". That was quite common until about 40 yrs ago.
2006-10-07 06:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by maccrew6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the upstairs loft is only ok to have as a bedroom if it has windows big enough for her to get out of if their is an emergency...
I would start building the room now but not move her just yet ... its better to start building now becuase time goes so fast that when you really need it - you dont have it... you should help him too though... heck I would do it myself
2006-10-07 03:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why has it been depressing to stay inland? i'd say the better homestead with a twelve months for the youngsters to play. A small residence in a magnificent section is sweet for a a pair, yet probable isn't perfect for little ones.
2016-12-04 09:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe i have herd the law is that kids of opposite sex can share a room until one of the children hit 5 years
2006-10-07 03:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by jjsoccer_18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u could keep them in teh same room until shes three
2006-10-07 04:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters which one is the girl and the boy. Please e-mail me at kbeesmer1993@yahoo.com and I can help you.
~~Kelly,mom to be~~
2006-10-07 04:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋