after a year of having a relationship i have broken up with my ex-g/f just over a month ago but the reason was that she was forced into it by religious parents...the thing is i am not over her yet and i dont think she is over me....my friends say i am desprate as i haven't got over her yet...do u think this is true??? and how long do you think is the average time it takes for a person to get over their ex-partner????
2006-10-07 03:06:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly I don't think I am "over" any of my serious exs. (If I saw them, I'd still be attracted to them and may feel compelled to try and rekindle things) But I have learned to deal with it. It's hard b/c you have all the dating idiosyncrasies that you have been practicing and now you have to put that on hold again. But don't despair. She will not be subject to her parents forever and absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Just try and be patient.
2006-10-07 03:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say that it takes the same amount of time as how long the relationship lasted. If you no longer see your ex then that can make things easier then seeing them all the time.
Try to occupy yourself and when you do eventually feel ready to start seeing other people then you know that you are getting over her.
You are not desperate love is a very powerful thing.
2006-10-07 10:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by slinky_nicz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like reading the story of my relationship with a guy i met, over 4 years ago. he was forced to leave me for religious reasons. its over since september 2004 and i still think about him like crazy. this is of course the negative side of all this. you should find things to do, fall in love again...there is no average time, some people forget too easily, some others not..
2006-10-07 10:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not desperate your still hopefull as you should be i mean if it was because of religious reasons then she does still like you more then likley and those relationships are the hardest ones to get over. But to be perfectly honest it only takes as long as you make it if you get areound and have fun and meet new people then it wont take as long to get over her but it still (depending on how much you like her) may take a while (a month or two).
= ) smile its not that bad! Good Luck!
2006-10-07 10:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not desperate you were probably just really fond of her, its very hard to lose someone you love especially when you both know that you want to be together. i cant suggest any overnight remedy for this, it will take time, if you definatley cant be together because of religous reasons then i suggest that you do try not to see each other in secret. you wont realise this now but there will be someone else out there for you.
There is no time limit to getting over some one, it takes time, your own time
2006-10-07 10:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sazi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be counting days, weeks, or anything else! If it is a induring love you will find each other farther down the line. If not then cherish the memories and learn to love yourself in a multidimentional way and your next great love will reap the benifits of your intelligence.
2006-10-07 10:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by littlescreechowl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time you get over someone when you find someone else to replace them.... with time is another way.... but certain someones stay with your memories all your life.
Try not to dwell on the relationships instead find a new hobby or a new interest to take up your idle time.....
2006-10-07 10:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of all the bad things that happened in the relationship, you'll soon turn out bitter and twisted and full of hatred, it won't take long...
2006-10-07 10:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by Fu Manchu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on you.But i think it will take till you fall in love with someone.
I know it's hard to forget people that you love but in order to live your life and enjoy it you shoud.
tHINK about the nice memories that you had together and remember that she made you feel happy and that she made your life great And then say that this was enough she gave you happiness but you have to forgive her for not being able to continue your life with you >trust me it's not her fault.
Enjoy life and get other it..I hope she does too
Wish you luck
2006-10-07 10:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by mmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can take a long time, if you were really in love then the feelings could be with you forever..my advice would be to get out with your friends and have a good time, things do and will get easy with time
2006-10-07 11:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by lee s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋