When I was 11 years old, I was gang raped by a group of shriners. I was at a parade, and I got separated from my mom, and about five or six of these guys chased me into a back alley on their little cars, jumped off and defiled me. I have been in therapy for years, but I still find that anytime I see a man with a square hat that has a tassle on it, I go into uncontrollable fits of shaking and weeping, and usually wet myself. The worst thing is, I can't reach orgasm with my husband unless he's wearing one of those hats too. It's like I have a split personality. I can't keep living like this. Help!
2006-10-07 03:03:02 · 15 answers · asked by cdrfish15 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Reading your other questions, I'm doubtful about the honesty of this question - it's really not something to joke about!
2006-10-07 03:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
my wife was raped, I hope my experiences are helpful
why the climax with the hat?
well, even though it was wrong what they did,
touching a sensitive part feels good.
that may sound silly,
many women who were raped feel quitly that they enjoyed some part of that.
it was a discusting act,
they deserve to be punished,
but like i said, touching an erogonos zone feels good, no matter what the intent was behind it.
so this was the first time it was excited, and some of the details of it may be effecting you.
I would reccomend finding a group online for rape survivers,
it is important that you have a group of people to talk to that
1: beleives you
2: can understand
I hope you have not given up based on the thoughless comments posted here,
you are not crazy,
your mind is struggling to make sence of what happened
you were forced to experience things that you were not ready for, and did not want.
your mind is trying to heal, and cope,
please seek out a survivers group,
read the posts before you comment, see that they are talkign seriously, and not degradingly before you join in the fray,
and please, let you husband know things when you can.
I always want to help my wife when she has her anniversaries ( every year, the same time of the year, the memories are worse(
but sometimes she doesn't tell me,
and I cant help when that happens.
there are no normal for everyone things,
I hope you are able to find peace.
2006-10-07 03:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by papeche 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Easy honey, practice anal sex you do not even have to look the them. Also, shaking and weeping is a good look for you. Plus lets be honest the hat does cover the bald spot on hubbys head xxx Watch out for the religious loonies and puritans it is there husbands I meet at the strip joints xxxx boy oh boy do those humour failures pile in... can you imagine the sex life they have!!! no wonder their partners are so easy to lay xx
2006-10-07 04:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's really not funny. I can tell you're not serious. I've spoken with rape victims before and have been a victim of date-rape. No rape victim describes it in such a fashion.
And, please, shriners? For those men to get to such a high rank in their organization, they have to be the pillars of their community. I'm not saying that no shriner has ever raped an 11-year-old, but a whole group of them in broad daylight during a parade? There's no way they could keep that a secret!
As I said before, this is not funny. I don't believe you have ever been raped. Your comments are cruel and insensitive for those of us who have. You should be ashamed of yourself.
2006-10-07 03:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Avie 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
hahahaha
I think what you need to is ask your husband to wear clown make up and the big red nose. You'll find a new fantasy and have the wildest and funniest sex ever. Don't forget the trampoline as well.
2006-10-07 03:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by BIZ Z 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
but no problem with little cars? hard to believe. wonder why you dont shake weep and pee when your husband is wearing the hat.
2006-10-07 03:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by David B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm. i think first you should go to therapy
second read this book called Lucky by Alice Sebold
third i think u should keep in mind that not all men are out there to rape you.
2006-10-13 18:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a little hat with a tassel, and a little car, then go riding around in back alleys yelling, Suey....Suey.... Suey...., and a bunch of your own species will come to your aid.
2006-10-07 03:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
pray and ask for willingness to cope, being a victim is a passive role, become a survibor, best way to help yourself is by helping the next person going through the same thing................
2006-10-07 03:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi, ive been raped myself and still struggle with. its amazing the things u remeber and how it changes the person you are, im not sure how i go about chattin via this site but id b happy to chat with u hun.
2006-10-07 08:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by rebecca j 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋