I am 39 years old male and use to hang out with a female friend. We lost touch when I went out of town some time back. I decided to look her up online and found her address. I sent a Mother's Day card around Mother's Day and within a few weeks she called leaving a message on my voicemail. She mentioned that it's been a long time and that we should get together. She also said to call her. I was flattered.....but she didn't leave her number. So I waited several weeks and never heard nothing. I researched again and called her mother's house and left my number. Her mother said that she would give her the number! Again no call! I don't quite understand. Did she lose my number? When her mother took my number, was she lying when she said she will pass it to her? Does she not really want to see me again?
2006-10-07 02:49:03 · 8 answers · asked by Dan M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sent a Mother's Day card, I assume with a return address & you left a phone number so, she knows that you tried to contact her. You did what you could do, short of contacting a mutual friend. (Hint)... The ball is in her court. Your 39 years old. Stop sweatin' the little things. Que Sera~Sera. (What Will Be, Will Be)
2006-10-07 03:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take it too personal. If its been a long time since you've both seen each other, maybe things have changed in her mind and in her heart. Also, you dont want to throw yourself out there TOO MUCH, if you've called her mulitple times and left messages, and she hasnt called, then lay low for a while...dont wait on her call, go out and live life. I say after some time passes, call one last time, and leave a voicemail, letting her know that your sorry if you had been a bother to her, just let her know that since time has passed, you still havnet forgotten her, and tell her you hanvet for a reason. let her know how you feel. Theres a great chance that with honesty, she will call you back. even if she doenst feel the same way...and you have to realize that that is a possibility...she may now be involoved with someone else, or maybe shes not looking for anyone at all right now..whatever the case may be, you have to atleast try to tell her how you feel, and work on it from there...you have to respect her privacy and her feelings...most likely with a sweet honest voicvemail, she will call back. but if not, even after all of this, then you have to let her go for the better. it wasnt meant to be. wouldnt you rather lose a friend now, then later on realize down the road that she hasnt been a true friend to you all this time? everyting in life happens for a reason, and i think you should take it how it comes..
2006-10-07 10:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you waited several weeks! That tells a woman that YOU don't care.
You are the one dropping the ball here, not her. I also recently was involved with a 39 year old who wanted me to call. well, I think that's the guy's job, not mine. I might call once, but really I think a guy should be initiating the contact because a woman feels "desperate" doing that and especially if you waited so long it really to her is going to feel like she is trying to revive a dead fish.
She'd probably be thrilled to hear from you, so do some research and find her phone number. Enter her name in quotes in a search engine like dogpile.com "sarah smith" and see what comes up or use dogpiles white pages option. You can find her direct number if you try, don't leave messages with her mother.
2006-10-07 09:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have her address write her again. Tell her you've been trying to contact her and u left your # with her mom. Maybe she is involved in a relationship and the mother didn't want 2 pass the number along. Leave your number again in your letter. If she doesn't respoond by calling or writing -----u have your answer .
2006-10-07 09:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she wants to see you again. She's had enough time to make a decision. Besides, even if she lost your number, she could have sent you a letter. You did put your return address on the card right?
2006-10-07 10:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she just wants to be friends. Being a girl myself, there are guys that I have dated and then I realized that I didn't like them as much as I thought I did or I just liked them for the wrong reasons. If she doesn't call you, then yeah, she just might be lying! But don't wait around for her if she doesn't even want to be your friend.
2006-10-07 09:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dan, it sounds like you are her friend but she's not yours. If she wanted to see you again she would call or make an effort to spend time with you. I know you don't quit. See if she calls again. If not move on... make a new friend.
2006-10-07 09:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by msladykm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to mean she doesn't want anything to do with you, forget her and move on.
2006-10-07 10:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋