What are some tips for keeping a long distance relationship alive and strong?

Answer 1

There is no magic formula. Try to keep in touch when you can, even if it's just once a week. Try to talk beyond just the common "What's the weather like where you are?". Depending on how long you will be apart, you need to make sure you know whats going on with the other person on a physical and emotional level. You don't want to grow apart! You will have to trust the other person to a 100%, because all your nagging and insecurity without all the positive emotions of being with each other might put a severe strain on your relationship.

It's hard, it really is.

But most of all, don't listen to anyone who says that a long distance relationship is supposed to be this, or that, way. I am merely giving you tips based on what I experienced. But I think my and my boyfriends biggest problem when our relationship became long distance was that we had so different perceptions of how it had to be. When you are feeling lonely, and insecure about what goes on in their head, and they don't call (because in all fairness, the other person ahs the right to their own life, and can be too busy and tired to call every day) the fact that everyone says that you are supposed to talk everyday, or your relationship is doomed, doesn't help. You need to see what is best for you.

But if you want to add that little touch to it, then do unexpected things... Like send her a postcard saying that you miss her just because, or text her something really sweet, or email her something adorable after you emailed her the sort of email she'd expect about your day/week etc, or simply tell her to get a tub of ben and jerry's look up when there is something good on the tv, tell her to sit down at a certain time with that b&j tub and tell her that you'll do the same. It's little things really, but they will make such a big difference in how you feel towards each other.

Answer 2

That is hard... keeping it alive and strong.. That is damn near impossible to do. I had a long distance relationship with my high school sweet heart i was in the 9th gr and he was in the 11th, and he moved back to michigan. We kept in touch on and off for like 5 or 6 years! And I was young, so we were making "fake" promises of being true to each other and getting jealous. I call it fake because we bothe were seeing other people and it's not like we could stop each other. I was in Las Vegas, and he's in Detroit! But I still loved him and I needed closure because I wanted to know was it in the past or did we have a future. So in 2001, I went to see him and a lot of old feelings came back and I was almost considering moving to where he was at. But what I realized about him that when he became an adult, he was really unstable, and couldn't hold a job. And he was always talking about missing out on something so I don't think he was ready. So I never persued it. And then some years later he asked me again and I told him it wasn't going to happen. I wasn't gonna dive head first into it because I felt that he would be mooching off of me, and I can't have that off of no one. Because I basically paid for everything when I came and he didn't have a job at the time... So it was good to see him.. But I was spending my money on food and a hotel when I think he should've had that covered since my dad paid for me a ticket. I am not discouraging you.. but you need to realize that's a looooong leash to hold onto. It depends on far the distance is too. If you are close enough to make a drive in a few hours than yeah, but if it's like over a day's drive than they might as well be in Africa. And don't expect too much out of the relationship like being faithful to you, unless you're married and in the army.. any other reason it's gonna be hard.

Answer 3

Sorry bro, its true. It just doesn't work. I know so many people who have tried. You change too much while you are away, and so do they. I know you aren't going to listen to me, and you're going to try to maintain anyway so good luck, but I'm sorry you're going to be disappointed.
I and 3 of my friends on seperate occassions before we even ever met eachother, have had the same experience. You have the best relationship of your life, then it turns into a long distance relationship for about a year or so that you (or they) are away. You are faithful the whole time, despite the hardest temptation you've ever had to resist in your life, and as soon as you go back, they break up with you nonnegotiably. I hope you break up with her and get a new girl wherever you are going.

Answer 4

If you each have access to a computer, make sure you both get webcams, so you can have virtual dates. If you know she will be home, call and order dinner to be delivered to her. Send her flowers or small gifts out of the blue. To save costs on phone bills, get VOI service, which usually includes unlimited long distance at no additional charge.

Just be sure to communicate and keep in touch with each other. Try your best to make plans to see one another at least once every 2 months (even if it is only for one night-Remember Luther's song?).

Answer 5

Try to talk as much as you can.Never stop calling because then they might think that your're not interested any more and go on to someone else and leave you.If there is any possible way u 2 can ever meet to see each other do it.

Answer 6

well i am in one right now and have been for 6 mouths and all i have to say is if you love her its easy and if you are any things like me we are on the phone 24/7 and we are so much in love that its the best every

Answer 7

I would like to give you some.
But I think that in my relationship I did everything wrong, because I am feeling like I loosing him.

Answer 8

It's never worked for me. You really need face time.

Answer 9

Always text or call.Viste every so often

Answer 10

good luck with that dude,..i wish you the best.
It can be very special,...but also very frustrating to deal with.
wish i could help you on this one.........