I love someone and he loved me, then we make a fight and separate for 4 months..then he called me and wanted to be back again..but he don't wnt to tell me, if he loves me or we'll be just friends.. i asked him but his answers wasn't clear enough.. He says that if he say he loves me now, it's responability for him and he don't want to take responsability now..He says that i'm not as a friend...so, who am i to him?
2006-10-07 02:31:02 · 17 answers · asked by Jasmien K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Besides, he know more beautiful and smart girls than me...so, i don't think that he want to use me or waste time with me... I always insist to separate but he come again and don't want to lose me..but i don't know in which way?
2006-10-07 02:44:12 · update #1
Girl, he is getting ready to dog your *** out. Please do not let him waste your time. He has someone else and you are going to be the "fall back" person. He does not love you. He is going to be telling you one thing and let you think you are together while he has someone on the side.
2006-10-07 02:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he's trying to tell you that he has missed you during that time apart and that it's made him realise that he does long for you. However, right now he is afraid of comitting to the relationship.
You are bound to get all sorts of advice ranging from simply distancing yourself from him - not for your sake, but for his. This would hopefully make him realise that you genuinely are someone who cares for him. He already knows how you feel so he needs to figure out that not every girl he'll come across in life is going to want to love him as truly as you do.
You may also think to hang out together as friends. That may well help to make him see that if you can get along as friends, then making that jump to being more than friends wouldn't be that bad.
Personally speaking, I think you should let him know where you stand. That way, he knows that you still care about him and if he really cares for you too, then he'll make an effort to hang out with you. This way, you don't lose all ties, but you do gradually enjoy each other and hopefully, he'll see how good a feeling it would be to get back together with you!
2006-10-07 09:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by diamante_sheeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys ended things and now he wants to come back. What is wrong with him letting you know how he feels or where you stand with him. If he is having a hard time with this simple question I wouldnt get back with this guy. You should never have to question where you stand with someone that love you. If he is having doubt and dont want to define things tell him once he knows what he wants to call you. I wouldnt wait around for his call.
2006-10-07 09:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is obviously confused as to what he wants he does not want to consider you a friend because this is too casual of a title but he does not want to see you as his significant other because this takes commitment and responsibility on his part....just play it cool for a while and if you can't do this then move on don't put your life on hold for him because in the end if you wait around for him then your wasting you life and not living it to your fullest potential and this is important to be happy. So you have to make the choice either move on with your life or to wait and be patient and see where it goes
2006-10-07 09:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by i love my dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age why do you really care if he loves you or not. You are only having a bit of fun and have no plans to marry him anyway. Go out for fun and stop thinking so far ahead of yourself.
2006-10-07 09:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyedijay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a booty call
if he dosnt want responsibility then fair enough... start dating when i mean dating i mean.. dont call or sms every day... go out 2-3 times a week... so you can still see eachother but still have some breathing room
good luck
god bless
2006-10-07 09:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i advice do not trust this guy,since u had a break up & aftr 4 months,not getting any frnd or gf he is confused & feels low..so may b he needs u to support or juz for a name sake,do not believe him fully,if u wana go back to him,first analize him truly sayin,& then make any decision
BEST LUCK!
2006-10-07 10:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by ur frnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tell you in a strange way, but i beleive it to be true. A friend of mine had a boyfriend who would come around at different times, and then go away for a while. She said she was his HAND BREAK..... give his HAND a break.
2006-10-07 09:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by idjit27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE WANTS U, U DESERVE A GUY THAT WILL TAKE ALL THE CONCEQUENCES AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HIS ACTIONS. THINK ABOUT IT- DO U WANT HIM TO LOOK AT U AS SOMEONE JUST FOR THE FUN PART? COS THAT'S WHAT IT MEANS NOT TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITIES!! TALK TO HIM AND EXPLAIN TO HIM THAT IF HE WANTS TO BE WITH U THAT HAS TO BE A REAL RELATIONSHIP!
2006-10-07 09:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. You are wasting your time trying to figure if his feelings are the same for you as yours is for him
2006-10-07 09:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋