That my husband was a whore & would always cheat on me .What would you do?Keeping in mind that he is a great guy but women are drawn to him cause of it.
2006-10-07 02:20:11 · 14 answers · asked by "karma" 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes we do have a long past of mistakes but on both ends.
2006-10-07 02:30:15 · update #1
To add one more time my mo thinks all men are liars & cheaters. She is also a very negative person but the comment does play on my heart cause I want her to be proven wrong.
2006-10-07 02:38:56 · update #2
If my mum told me that my husband was a whore, I’d probably have to agree with her, because I am a male !!!
Sorry… Just my warped sense of humour coming out !
You obviously wouldn’t be happy about what your mum said, and it will need to be a case of you proving her wrong.
I don’t know what your mum was like prior to you getting married…
Did she try to talk you out of getting married?
Look, I’m a great guy too, and if any women are drawn toward me, I make damn sure they know I’m not interested.
If your husband isn’t doing the same, then perhaps he isn’t the ‘great guy’ you think he is, and your mum just might be proven right !
You have mentioned that there is a long past of mistakes…
Do those mistakes include ‘cheating’?
If your husband has cheated on you, and your mother knows about it, then she has every right to feel the way she does.
Whether she has the right to keep bringing it up though, is another matter.
Does your husband do anything to make himself ‘less attractive’ to other women?
Does he flash his Wedding Ring at anyone who shows the slightest interest?
Perhaps you should stick a “I AM MARRIED” sign to his forehead !
As I said earlier, it is up to you (and your husband) to prove your mother wrong…
She obviously loves you, and is concerned for your wellbeing, so I don’t believe she deserves to be criticized for that.
Hang in there, and just try to prove your mum ‘wrong’ OK !!!
Good luck !!!
2006-10-07 02:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother is trying her best to protect her little girl. It hurts her to see the obvious. I thinks she just wants you to realize what your faced with. Not to mention that your mother may have said that to you, but there is something else she's obviously not telling you. It also makes her mad that you are willing to put up with something like this, because she believes you can do better and you deserve better. Last, but not least you are a married woman and if you want to put your all into your marriage than so be it. It's what women have been doing sense the beginning of time, looking the other way. I believe this your marriage and all men are not "dogs" it's just that maybe your mother has been let down too many times by the opposite sex. She needs to let you have your own experiences and wish you , your husband and the marriage the best. I know I do. She also needs to learn to respect your decision to not be a quieter.
2006-10-07 03:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom in her own way is looking out for you. Since you both have done things in the past, she has probably gotten so used to the drama and also is mad at your hubby for his actions.
She's your mom, she's going to stand by you and call your mistakes candy canes.
If I have a dime for everytime I didn't listen to what others on the outside see I'd be rich because when it all comes down when your in it, you don't see whats really happening until its too late. Maybe your mom sees and is trying to tell you and spare you more drama.
2006-10-07 04:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just watch,don't say anything to hubby what mom said.Sometimes parent's can see things that we can't.I'm sure mom would'nt have made a statement like that without proof.You are her daughter and she loves you very much.So just watch and you look for yourself.Maybe since girls are drawn to him mom could have seen him flirting or something.It could have been harmless but you haf to remember you are momma's baby.Or ask mom why would she say such a thing.It is serious.Or did he do something to you in the past that made mom ay this?It could e a numerous of things,but it's not important for you to tell him what mom said,just watch for yourself.Goodluck.And remember what I told you sometimes parent' can see things that we can't for whatever reason maybe we don't want to or whatever,but just keep your eyes on the prize!lol
2006-10-07 02:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your problem. My mom is the same way. Ever since I began dating my husband, she has not been able to stand him. This has been very difficult on us, especially me. When we got married, she refused to help us with anything, then got mad when his mom helped us with it. My mom also swears that all men are as*holes, and aren't worth crap.
However, I continue to live my life, and she has finally learned that I'm not going to listen to her talk about my husband like he's not worth anything. Also, she ignores the fact that she has taken in my oldest son, who I had before we even met. He has been in our lives since my son was six weeks old, and has never once talked bad about his decisions. We now have three kids, and things are great.
Some mothers have had bad experiences with men, and cannot understand that there are some decent ones out there. I hope things get better for you. Good luck.
2006-10-07 03:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by tiggerluv252000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my own experience and the experiences of others I know your mother is always right! She is a third party looking in from outside, she clearly sees something you don't. Love is blind as they say however if you are happy and content then do what you feel is right if she is right then im sure she will still be there for you regardless.
2006-10-07 02:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether the guy is just friendly with women or if he takes it up a notch. It's not his fault women are drawn to him, it's what happens afterward that important.
2006-10-07 02:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my mom to shut up, in a nice way. It is not her problem to deal with and its not her business. She is not married to him u r. She should be supporting u not degrading u nor him. If he is a great guy then there is nothing to worry about. Ur mom needs to leave it alone.
2006-10-07 02:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I limit time spent with negative people... whether they are family or not.
Works for me but not everyone has the discipline to do it!
2006-10-07 05:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST TALK TO HER. TELL HER THAT THIS IS YOUR LIFE, THAT U MADE UR CHOICES AND SHE MUST RESPECT THEM. TELL HER THAT IF SHE WANTS U TO BE HAPPY, INSTEAD OF MAKING SUCH COMMENTS SHE CAN JUST BE THERE FOR U WHEN U NEED HER. BUT NOT TO TRY TO MESS WITH UR LIFE. IF UR HUSBAND LOVES U, HE WOULDN'T DO THINGS TO HURT U.
2006-10-07 03:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Stella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋