Why do you think some people find it hard to find that special person to spend the rest of their lives with?

Answer 1

I think that there is maybe just one person in the whole world that is a 100% match with your ideal other half. Just think of all the different types of required criteria: physical (height, body size, colour of eyes, hair etc.), emotional (levels of stability, maturity, independence etc.), intellectual attributes (levels of education, intelligence, wisdom, erudition, articulateness etc.) social skills (shy/outgoing, etiquette, adaptation etc.) background (race, religion, age, social status etc.) personality type (romantic/unromantic, selfish/caring, generous/frugal etc.) and there's more!

Now you could spend a whole lifetime looking for this one person, but maybe not find him/her. That would be a shame, and a great wasted effort. So you have to compromise. You have to decide that you'll accept less than 100%. Where you draw the line is up to you (and desperation and ticking clocks may make you over-compromise). Personally I would not recommend less than 90%. If you are too accepting of another person's imperfect attributes, then those same attributes will serve as timebombs waiting to explode at some time in the future. This will happen after the honeymoon period, when the butterflies have left the stomach and "Mr. Horn" has settled down. Once the relationship moves into what should be a calm routine, then all those unsatisfactory qualities, that you were happy to overlook in the first place, start to niggle.

Back to finding that person now .... not only do you have to find someone with your desired attributes, s/he also has to like what you have to offer. So the problem is actually double what you think it is, because love has to be reciprocated, otherwise it just won't work.

Now you can see why I think that some people find it hard to encounter that special person, with whom to spend the rest of their lives. Me, I consider myself fortunate, because I recently found someone who matched all my desired requisites, and then some more. However I went through some hellish relationship experiences before I found her, and when I did find her, I wasn't even looking. I guess there's a big element of luck in all this.

Answer 2

Just because you are in a long term relationship does not mean you are necessarily happy. It is hard to find a partner that compliments any individual. I suppose it is a matter of fate some people seem to meet that special person.

Answer 3

Some people find the "right" person straight away, others go through life never having found anyone good. That is the way it is I am sorry to say. I think that one has "luck" attached to them, either one has it or one doesn't. Life isn't fair. We do not get a manufacturers guarantee at birth.

Answer 4

It's easy to find special people. It's the 'rest of my life' bit that's hard to handle.

Answer 5

some people have luck and some dont. I think thats what it boils down to.. Its better to find the right person later in life then to find mr right now and get him confused with mr right. Just hold your head up.. I havent found my one and only yet either...but I know hes out there somewhere lost.. ha ha

Answer 6

Fear.
Fear of making a big mistake.
Fear of making a big decision.
Fear that he or she is not the right person.
Fear that he or she does not love you as you do.
Fear of spending the rest of your life with that person.
Fear leads to insecurities, doubt, and anxieties.
Even if you find that special person, fear can ruin a very good thing..

Answer 7

If God closes the door it is really to protect you. If you could see what was on the other side of that door in the future, just like God can you wouldn't want to walk through that door either.

But you can't so you need to rely on trusting God. Believe me you won't be late for your own wedding and you won't regret having waited especially when you have so much peace in your heart and a person who loves you because they were made for you.

Pray that God will bring that person in your path and don't stop praying until God does. People of little faith are those that stop praying early, big faith prayers until they receive. Be strong and of a good courage wait on the Lord and be strong :)

Answer 8

because they know what they want and they aren't willing to settle for anything else and they let everyone know that. In that way they keep the guys who might be mr almost right from approaching. Guys do similar stuff but not always on purpose. lots of times ladies will drop hints but the guy doesn't see what was going on until it's too late. (That one would be me).

Answer 9

Because those very 'some people' have preconcieved ideas of that special person hence no one will be able to fulfill all the requirements

Answer 10

I know that I find it hard to connect with anyone in that way, even though I'd like to, because I am afraid of letting them down and hurting them by mistake.