A married man I have known for years has teased me many times about getting together for sex (which has never happened) - he'll hint that he wants to, I agree, then nothing. Sometimes he will be very communicative and write explicit e-mails, etc. and seems to enjoy this. Sometimes I don't hear from him, or he won't answer my communications/questions. Sometimes he acts like he really likes me specifically and can't wait to see or be with me (hasn't happened in years). Then I see he's placed an ad on a website for swingers. So he's obviously looking for other people - but not me!? Whenever I try to cut it off and say that we are looking for different things, he seems to get upset because I'm ambivalent and doesn't understand why I don't want to talk to him anymore. In my opinion, you either have an affair or you don't. This is driving me nuts and obviously I need to make a decision. It was fun at first but I'm not getting anything out of it. BUT why would he do this - what's the point?
2006-10-07 02:02:38 · 17 answers · asked by Sinner & Saint 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's feeling insecure and needs the ego boost. Don't give him any more of your energy. He sounds like one of those people that are never satisfied with themselves and are constantly looking for something to make themselves feel better. He will bleed every drop of energy from you if you let him.
2006-10-07 02:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by his girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end u may not get anything out of a relationship w/ a married man. I don't know what ur complete agenda is, (just wanna have a sex buddy, really want to be w/ this guy?) but there will be no winners in this. Move on to someone that isn't playing games w/ u, someone SINGLE and only YOURS!
2006-10-07 09:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE HE LIKES U, AND WANTS U, BUT REALISES HE HAS A SEXUAL PROBLEM AND BEING MARRIED TO ANOTHER WOMAN, CAN'T OFFER U ANYTHING MORE THAN JUST SEX. MAYBE HE IS AFRAID THAT THERE R FEELINGS INVOLVED IN THE SITUATION BETWEEN U TWO AND DOESN'T WANNA HURT U.
I WAS IN A SIMILAR SITUATION MYSELF 4 YEARS AGO. I ALSO LIKED HIM, HE WAS MARRIED AND A COLEAGUE OF MY HUSBAND THEN. THERE WAS ALWAYS SOME CHEMISTRY BETWEEN US, WHICH WAS REALLY HARD TO HIDE, WHEN BEING WITH OUR SPOUSES. WE WERE FRIENDS, THE TWO FAMILIES I MEAN, AND WERE VISITING EACH OTHER QUITE OFTEN. WITH THE GUY WE WERE COMMUNICATING MAINLY BY INTERNET- EMAILS.THEN I FOUND OUT FROM MY HUSBAND THAT HE HAD SEVERAL GIRLFRIENDS IN DIFFERENT CITIES. I WAS ALSO CONFUSED BY THE SITUATION, COS THERE WERE TIMES HE SEEMED REALLY INTO ME AND THEN I DON'T HEAR FROM HIM FOR WEEKS. SO, FINALLY WE HAD A TALK, AND IT TURNED OUT THAT HE HAD FEELINGS FOR ME, MORE THAN JUST PASSION AND HE WAS AFRAID THAT HE MIGHT HURT ME, COS BEING A MARRIED MAN AND I A MARRIED WOMAN, WE DIDN'T HAVE FUTURE.
MY ADVICE IS TO WAIT AND NOT TO PUSH THINGS. ENJOY THE FLIRT.
2006-10-07 09:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, what is the point? There is absolutely no reason why you should take this man up on his advances. First, think of your health. If he is out whoring around on his wife, no telling what diseases he is carrying. Second of all, there is nothing to gain in a relationship with a married man. It will only bring you heartache and pain.
Tell him firmly that he needs to stop with his advances because you respect yourself too much to stoop to his level!
2006-10-07 09:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by chi chi's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be ambivalent. He may have something to hide (like a disease) that he doesn't want to discuss with people he knows. After all this talk he may be afraid that he won't measure up to your expectations. He could have an embarassing problem like premature ejaculation. Or, he could be really selfish and insensitive about your feelings.
2006-10-07 09:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this man is hinting that he wants to be with you but also other people, then he is not worth your time. he is one that wants only to benifit from the pleasures in life. You need someone who will treat you right and not have problems of his own. Ignor him or tell him to bugger off.
2006-10-07 09:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world is full of players, belive me I know!
Go focus on somebody else, find a real-life man to get excited with!
2006-10-07 09:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to realize how u would feel if u were his wife. and u also need to realize that u r quite possibly committing the most hurtful act one person can do to another. Just realize that there are other people involved.
2006-10-07 09:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by superman01706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when has it ever been fun to sleep with a married man? wat a bout his wife and maybe if he has any, his kids..
I suggest u cut this thing off with this man, he obviously wants sex from anything breathing and isnt commited to you..tell this guy to get a life and get one of ur own and get a SINGLE man..there is nothing sexy about a married man...
2006-10-07 09:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by missthang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you doing with married man. Find your own.
2006-10-07 09:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋