2006-10-07 01:53:39 · 25 answers · asked by KEVIN L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honey - 10 weeks is far too soon - you are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship - you will have a huge reality check if you do - children are very demanding no matter how lovely they are or she is - it will change your relationship with your lady 10 fold. take it slowly - what is the rush? if you love each other - find out about each other and if it is meant to happen, it will.x
2006-10-07 23:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are happening a little quick dont you think? I think it take a few months to get to know a person.(the great lady) This is to soon. You will be taking on a lot of responsibilities bills,kids etc. I personally would give it some time. Get to know this woman and her kids first. You didnt say the ages of the kids. Its hard being a single parent believe me I know so I am sure she will welcome the help. She needs to let this be a gradual thing. Start spending the weekend over at her house. See if you can adjust to spending time with her and the kids. I know smaller kids right now would drive me crazy after leaving my job they require so much attention(questions,homework etc) Older kids can also be a problem(attitudes,your not my dad when you ask them to do something)Take t his big step slowly it can work. Also make sure your going to be there for her and the kids in the long run they have already had one parent to leave. You dont want them to get use to you being around and then you leave them. Hopefully this woman isnt the type of woman that has seen her share of men and have them in and out of her house.
2006-10-07 09:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with someone who has kids is a big commitment and if you have only known her for 10 weeks and are asking this question I would say it was a bit soon. You should both allow yourselves time to get to know each other better first.
2006-10-07 09:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon. you need to get to know her better - it would be a cheap thing for me to say that the kids will be a put off - but put it this way, you need to have a good, strong relationship with her first before you can take on family responsibilities - the kids will need to respect you, and you'll need to get on and be part of their lives. if you don;t get to know all of each other's little foibles before you move in (even leaving it 6 months would be enough) then you will be at risk from having your relationship ruined by arguing about trivial things because you hadn't set the boundaries in the first place. Spend 6 months having good adult fun - doing what you like to do, and set the basis for a good sound relationship
2006-10-07 08:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Behavin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question you don't seem to be ready for this commitment, and therefore should ask her if you can delay it just now. If you were to move in and it didn't work out then its not just you, its the kids too they will be confused and unsettled. When kids are involved make sure it feels right to do the move first.
Hope this helps ?
2006-10-07 09:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wee, that can happen when you date anyone with a kid, let alone three. I wouldn't move in with a gf after 10 weeks if she had no kids. That's my two cents.
2006-10-07 09:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T you can't n someone after 10 weeks, and kids are a big responsibility and are added pressure on a relationship.
2006-10-07 08:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by sexyass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to move in with her and take up the role of father? You have to think about this yourself. Moving in with someone that has children is a big step in a relationship.
2006-10-07 08:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 weeks seems like a little early to me......but thats just me maybe.
how do you feel about a ready made family? can you fit yourself into the lives of this woman and her children? remember, you are moving into the life of these kids. You have to fit into their lives not try to fit them into yours.
think it over very carefully
2006-10-07 09:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by anotherhueylover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others,its too soon to move in to the lady's house. But if you think it is the right decision, ask yourself this, "Am I prepared?". Hope you make the right decision.
2006-10-07 09:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by kiki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋