he don't let me go out with my friends and when i gou out i can't take long !! 2 hour that the maxiumum time i can take.. he always treat like a kid ..
he always tells me grow up ...
and when ido that ....!!!???
i take care of my younger brother i do all the things he expect me to do ...
but ?! he don't see it
i can't take it any more
Help me plz
2006-10-07 01:49:28 · 10 answers · asked by xt.xpert 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
am 17 years now ,, he can't treat like if i was 13\14 ,,
i try so hard to prove that i've changed alot
but he can't see it ..
well i think the problem is that i can't do what i want to do ... he always tells me to do things ... and not to do things
i guess this is the problem
2006-10-07 02:08:24 · update #1
If you have to tell him you are aman, you are not yet. You will be man when you act like one and stop whining about your responsibilities and act on them.
2006-10-07 01:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by c.arsenault 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING proves a point like ACTIONS !
SHOW your father that you are a man by being one! DO what a responsible man does in your culture whatever that may be!
Take over a manly chore in your household, telling your father he may rest and YOU will now do the chore. Treat elders with respect and you will ultimately be respected as well!
2006-10-07 12:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's trying to teach you to be responsible which it sounds like you have learned to be already. (by taking care of your brother, your chores and obeying his curfews). Maybe he wants to keep you out of trouble by setting the 2 hour time limit of being with friends. He might be testing your obedience.
How old are you?
I would say to sit down with your father and talk with him in a loving respectful way. Even if you don't feel loving. Let him know your needs.
Tell him you respect the way he has taught you to be responsible (kiss butt by praising his parenting skills-even if you don't like them!) by allowing (haha!) the opportunity to help with your brother, chores etc. and that you've kept with his time limits with friends etc. but that you feel you have earned or would like more freedom and you've shown that you can be responsible etc.
If he doesn't give you answers that you feel are fair, then compromise. If he says...okay...then 3 hours with friends, and you were hoping for 5 hours, then possibly compromise with 4 hours. Get it? Good luck my friend! You sound like a good man!
2006-10-07 09:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by 7aliens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, a man at age 18.
Parents calendar' not until age 21.
Any parent (I am one) that treats their son like HE treats you, means only 1 thing; he worries about you, loves you.
Hang on to being a kid as long as you can. Being a man really sucks! Too many responsiblities.
2006-10-07 08:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, Stop whining,. move out and support yourself. Then you are a man, but as long as you are living under his roof you have to live by his rules. Taking care of your brother and following the rules set by your Dad doesn't ,ake you a man if you complain and have to be told to do the things you are supposed to do.
2006-10-07 08:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take more responsibility and help him out. Continue to prove your worth. Try doing some chores on your own like mowing the lawn if you don't already! Also, it always helps to talk.
2006-10-07 09:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by "Teh" Leester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out , get over yourself and stop trying to grow up so dang fast! I wish I would have never left highschool...oh wait thats how I felt back then...now I wish I would not get any older. Oh wait...we never seem to be happy with what we got we think the grass is greener on the other side...but the truth is, ... it's not!
2006-10-07 08:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by RM706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up physically doesn't mean you grew up...
You gotta be more mature, intelligent and responsible...
My dad gave me freedom when I was only 14... He told me to take my own decisions in life and be responsible for them too... He was like "A man is Repsonsible for his words and decisions in life".
He never lost his cool when I did crazy things or screw up situations...
2006-10-07 08:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by direct2leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit Dad down & tell him that you have been doing all the things he asks of you & showing responsbility & it is time to let you grow into the man he raised you to be.
2006-10-07 08:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about the way he's treating you.
2006-10-07 08:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by aznbrownprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋