Everyone of my friends say guys should ask the girl out, which I think its true. But what happens if you really like a guy, and u cant get him to ask u out?!? What do you think of this "guys ask the girls" thing?
2006-10-07 01:48:26 · 19 answers · asked by Girlie Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea sure why not??
2006-10-07 01:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, it would be lovely if the guy asks the girl out. However, guys aren't always quick off the mark to realise that the time has come to ask her out. In fact, there are some guys who think that there's no real requirement to ask the girl out at all when they're already spending so much time together. Pathetic, I know! They are quite scared of rejection.
If you are enjoying each other's company, then there's no real rush. When the time's right, he'll want to let his feelings be known to you and it'll be you who finds out first, not any of his friends!
Girls can ask guys out, but I think your safe bet would be to drop hints and I mean HUGE hints so that the guy can still feel like he's da man later on when you both look back on the relationship.
Personally speaking, my advice would be to try and be patient with the guy and wait for him. But don't wait forever. If he takes too long then he obviously doesn't have the courage to ask any girls out. If the guy is naturally very shy and sensitive, then I would get him talking about the relationship and ask him why the two of seem to be getting along so well and enjoy each other's company. Get him thinking that a relationship isn't that different from what you have right now and he may well turn around and pleasantly surprise you!
2006-10-07 09:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by diamante_sheeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naturally, guys ask girls out but as times are changing, girls are now having the guts, balls and courage to do so. It all depends on what suits you. But have it at the back of your mind that you're going to be at the risk of rejection. Wish you good luck.
Just as a word of advice, investigate properly if the guy really digs you because he might just be admiring you and may not be interested in a relationship. So keep your eyes and ears open. Find out from his friends what he feels about you and do some homework. At least, that's what some guys do to get the girl. Doing this will put you at a lower risk of rejection.
2006-10-07 09:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok for the girl to ask the guy, but some girls would probably feel like the guy doesn't really like, if he did he would have asked her out first. It's true, but some guys are shy, and like it when the girl approaches them. So the best thing to do is if you meet a shy guy you can ask him out, but if you meet a out going guy, wait till he asks you out.
2006-10-07 08:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Hayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it doesn't matter if the guy asked the girl or the girl asked the guy. Both guys and girls have a fear of rejection, the tradition of the guy asking the girl out is just an excuse for us females to hide behind our fears and not have to worry about taking any risks, if you're interested in a guy, it's perfectly fine to make the first move, if you're worried about rejection, pull him aside and ask in private.
2006-10-07 08:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by kittycat_cc14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little story I am 24 yrs old now but when I was 14yrs old in high school I was really shy I just came back from Fl middle school and started high school In NJ and had no friends. I had one guy friend that always made me laugh, feel at ease and happy. I grew feelings for him that turned into crush then love and never told him for some reason you mentioned. Years past we both had relationships though we always stayed friends I am 24 yrs old now and 2 yrs and a half ago he confessed he always had feelings for me and we've been together ever since! Dint wait around like I did honey and go ask him!
2006-10-07 08:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Babylinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's ok 4 a girl 2 ask a guy out.And he might just like that u asked him out
2006-10-07 10:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by crybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with asking a guy out. But if you have a problem with it, don't do it. Then you watch the guy you like with someone else.
2006-10-07 08:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Girls can ask guys out. We live in the 21st century, girl. Go for it.
2006-10-07 08:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can ask him out, if you are trying to get him to ask you out, then you are playing mind games with him and that is what will ultimately destroy your relationship. because you will subconsciously perceive him as emotionally weak because he fell for the mind game you played and you wont want him because of that. I don't understand why you women think you need to pull that self defeating crap anyway. just ask him out and you will be glad you did.
2006-10-07 09:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by ohmywhatamessimin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls are allowed to ask guys out. if my fiance never asked me out i probably would have never even have given her a second look b/c i thought she was not interested
2006-10-07 09:03:58 · answer #11 · answered by superman01706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋