My son refuses to use the potty!!!?

Question

My son has a fit when he place hoim on the potty even when we KNOW he has to go. whats going on? is he just being lazy? is it really scary for him? he will be 3 in Feb....PLS HELP

thanks every one can anyon etell me why he says he has to go at nite time or while we are grocery shopping?when he says stuff like that it makes me think he is ready

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Make his Potty experience more pleasant. Maybe play some music or let him look at a favorite book while sitting there. Never make him sit more than 5 minutes at a time.

When he says he has to go at bedtime, it is more than likely that he is trying to delay bedtime. I would make sure he is bathed and ready for bed at least a half hour before actually putting him to bed. Then about 15 or 20 minutes before bedtime, say, "OK, Let's go potty before bedtime." Take him in and let him sit on the potty.
Once he is done...or bedtime...whichever comes first, let him wash his hands and give him a very light snack with something to drink...such as a graham cracker and a small glass of milk. Make this a nightly ritual. Also when he gets up in the morning, take him to the potty. Let him sit there for 5 min. or less. Remember, 5 min. for a young child could seem like an hour. At various times throughout the day, say, "Potty time!" and let him sit on the potty for a few minutes. Then let him wash his hands again and reward him with a hug.
Remember, the repetitiveness and the consistency is the way they learn.

Answer 3

I'd suggest keeping him in diapers, don't even try heading to the potty, and in a few weeks, tell him that when he's ready to use the potty and get rid of the diapers to let you know. That's how all three of my boys were potty trained. I believe the other way with the mom bringing the child to the potty is actually the "mommy potty trained" not the child.

I've also watched many kids grow up so called potty trained at 2 or whenever, "mommy trained", that as they grew older, those kids wet their bed all the time. My boys never had an accident. Not one.

Also, when there was poop in the diapers, I'd ask them if it felt good and when they said "no", I'd say, well before you put the poop in the diaper, use your muscles down there to hold it in your body and head to the bathroom to put your poop in the toilet.

It works wonders. Plus, much easier for you mom, just change the ol' diaper. No wet pants to change while you're out shopping, or them wetting themselves while sitting on your couch. simple.

Also, all three of my boys trained themselves just after 3 years old. So...hang in there!

Good Luck!

Answer 4

yeah plz don't force him thats not good, he won't want to go at all if you don't let him do it on his own,my son was the same way and for a while I had put reg. underware on him so that when he went he would feel it, I had to clean up after him all the time and it got to be a hassle but it seemed to help because at least this way he started heading for the bathroom but would still make the mistake in the bathroom,so I decided to take him outside and let him go in the back yard, when they feel more free and don't have the fear of the toilet.after that he would go a few more time outside but then he started doing it in the toilet,after the first time though make a huge deal about it.I gave my son a brownie and a new toy just something to let him know that it was good going to the potty and he has been going ever since. good luck,hope this helps.

Answer 5

Don't push him into doing it. He'll just refuse even more. Just take a break now. My son wasn't potty trained until he was 2 weeks shy of turning 3. And they still consider it to be early for a boy. So, don't stress him out. This is what we did: My dh put my son's favorite stuffed animal on the potty, and make that toy go (dh put a small brown ball in the potty to make it look real! LOL). We would than praise the hell out of that stuffed animal. Soon, my son was trying it out on his VERY OWN.

Good luck. It takes patience.

Answer 6

My son will be 3 next month and it is hard. We bought him a potty. He sits on it but when we takes his diaper off that's when the fun begins. I have even put him on the big toilet and he lost his mind. What we have done is that we have put him on the potty and either me or my husband has pretended like we were using the toilet too. Do it every 2-3 hours so he can get used to it.

Answer 7

Listen,first of all dont freak out!Most kids dont start using the potty till they're about 3 years old.My girls just turned two.They never,not once,sat on the potty.Obviously,they weren't comfortable with it for some reason.Every kid is different.So my husband and I tried to toilet train them right away.We explained to them that if that had to go,they would tell us and we'd take them to the bathroom.After 3-4 times,they started feeling comfortable on the toilet and would always go.This was when they were about 22 months old.Now,each time they need a poo or a pee they ask and we take them to the bathroom.We have no dipers on them anymore,only at night and afternoon when they sleep.They dont even pee on their pants.Maybe you should give it a try teaching your son to use the toilet.Maybe he'll feel more comfortable there.But you have to be consistent and very very patient.Once he has the hang of it he'll be okay!

Answer 8

First thing is not to push it. He will start to resent you and the toilet. Do you have a small potty just for him? If not get one of those. It's more his size and he'll be less afraid of it. My son was daytime pee trained at 18months. But he loved it. You could also make a game out of it by putting a cheerio in the water and let him "shoot" at it. That will also help his aim. It worked for my grandmother and me, it should also work for you.

Answer 9

It's too soon. If they don't want to go, they won't. If they hold it for too long it can cause bladder problems. So don't force him to go. My now 3.5 year old didn't want to seriously use the potty for the longest but the month before he started preschool I told him that if he didn't go he couldn't go to school. He got serious realy quick and potty trained himself in about two weeks. When he's ready, you'll know it.

Answer 10

He's is pretty young to actually be potty trained. Give him a little time. One day it will just click. My son trained at about three and a half, and he didn't have any accidents since.