Last April, I found a secret myspace my bf had been hiding.. this was when he was attending school in another state. He had email at least 20 girls, probabaly more. He even called this one HIDEOUS, girl [this one-->myspace.com/jenn_j.] not even half as pretty as me.Really.]. He sent her messages like "you have a sexy voice" and he sent her a picture of him. And, no offense to black girls, [i<3 u]but he doesn't find them attractive.I confronted him and he said he didnt know what he was doing.well,what hurts the most is that he didn't mention me once, he put single on his pro and he set up teh account using an email adress that consisted of my nickname for him and the day we started dating..and he proposed to me 3 months prior.. He's making up for it.. really.. But Im still hurt and if I ever bring it up, he gets sad and asks why I haven't gotten over it yet. Do you think I should still be hurt.. I can't get over it soon, and i'm positive i'll never forget it. What would you have done?
2006-10-07 00:26:04 · 7 answers · asked by KS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And don't call me shallow. I know for a FACT that my bf isn't attracted to anyone but white girls. Doesn't make ME shalloww or racist. I don't want anyone complaining about that. I'm asking for advice on the situation not to be put down
2006-10-07 00:27:50 · update #1
Well I kind of know how you are feeling, I never did what your boyfriend did, but well I did alot worse, and well my ex never got over it, so tried her very best, and for awhile she seemed to be doing alot better. But deep down inside it just ate her up. And well long story short it just became the fact where we decided to be just friends, she never wanted to talk to me at all, she hardly had much to say because of that as well, and well the e-mails came ever few days here and there. I mean her parents hated me for what I did, and I understand, so well she made the right choice, I would rather her feel safe around her parents and find a real boyfriend, then continue what little relationship we had left from my mistake. And well at this point I guess she hates me completely.
So yeah you have ever right to be sad, angry, however it is you feel, I mean he screwed up really big, and like my ex girlfriend made it so apparant, after time sometimes you don't ever truly get over it, and if that happens to be your feelings after awhile, it would only be normal and he would be getting what he deserved
2006-10-07 01:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him that you need a break for like 1 or 2 weeks (or more depending on how often you guys are used to seeing eachother). That will show him how badly you are hurt and offended by this and it will give him time to think. Plus after a few weeks apart you'll miss him so much and he'll miss you that when you two see eachother again it will be like the first time and your eyes will be open to how much you care about him despite what happened and he'll realize how much he doesn't want to lose you and will stop playing with fire and spend more time complimenting you instead of girls that he doesn't even care about! I think time heals all wounds. Good luck girl and i really hope that no matter how you solve this that things will work out between you and he'll stop messing around!
2006-10-07 00:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by metemorphasis 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot know for certain who your bf is attracted to. Why would he have wasted his time on the other girl if he wasn't attracted to her? I don't see how it matters what race the girl is, he still was chatting it up with other females and lying to you in the process. It sounds like he is not ready to settle down with one girl. Which is pretty common. This is why I don't think that young people should be dating exclusively. It always seems like the boys are not ready for it yet. While your head is filled with hearts and flowers, and you are thinking up baby names for your future children together, he is thinking about how many hot chics he can get. I am not trying to be mean, it is the truth. Young men are not thinking the same way young women are, about their relationships. I would let him talk to and see who he pleases and you should do the same. There is plenty of time to settle down with one person when you are both mature enough to do so.
2006-10-07 00:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by amalia372005 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if u do love him and think that he loves u 2 forgive him and try not to mention it to him again but do remember it for future reference
2006-10-07 00:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by sarge 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
STOP WHINING> YOU OBVIOUSLY ARE NOT DOING ALL YOU SHOULD IN THE SEX STAKES TO KEEP HIM HAPPY AND CONTENT
MORE ORAL
ANAL
OUTDDOR GROUP
BDSM AND WATERSPORTS
or you willfind he is doing the 'tan' behind your back...
ps ignore the God Squad and feminists who will answer you God Bless You Sister xx
2006-10-07 00:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in do time you will forgive but not forget for a long time
2006-10-07 00:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
good for him black girls are nasty anyways
2006-10-07 00:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋