serouisly, i am really gonna end up killing someone one day and i can't stop arguing with my mam. everyday is hell for me! how can i stop being so stressed out? no nasty people please, i know i'm crazy asking all these questions but i need help!
2006-10-07 00:21:59 · 35 answers · asked by stupid 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I used to be unable to control my temper until I learnt karate.
Some years ago a mate of mine who had a simular problem was ordered by the court to take up boxing.
It worked for the both of us, give it a try.
2006-10-07 00:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's stressing you?
Would it kill you to allow someone else to have the last word?
Do you have to be right ALL the time?
Are the things you're arguing about really THAT important?
I think it's often just habit - you get into a cycle of dealing with some people in a particular way.
Try not getting involved in a conversation you know is going to go bad. Just head it off at the pass. Use banal comments to stop the argument before it starts, like "I see" or "I hear you" or change the subject really obviously.
With your mam just tell her you're not going to talk about it bacause you know it'll end in a fight.
Pick a calm moment, organise your thoughts, figure out what it is you're trying to say in the heat of the moment, and find a way to say the same thing calmly and reasonably.
If that doesn't work - Walk Away until you cool down.
2006-10-07 00:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by RM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try anything and everything. Ask your Doctor about anger managment classes. Try hypnotherapy, accupunture, massage. Try relaxation techniques till they come out of your ears. Ask your Mam for help. Anger comes from within and if the within is in a knot then the rest of your life will be too. Eat well and exercise. Sleep well and take care of yourself. Also, try the old cliche, count to 10. If you feel yourself going, count slowly in your head and think about how your response will effect others. The people you love will only put up with it for so long before they get bored and won't want to help you. Do it now while you can get help from everyone. At least you've overcome the first hurdle, recognising it! Good luck! x
2006-10-07 00:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by t11omo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright when you feel that bad temper of yours coming on then sit down and count to ten and give yourself a few minutes to cool off before flying off of the handle. When you and your mom start arguing with each other stop. Tell your mom that she is getting you upset and you would rather not lose your temper. If mom is making hell for you everyday then you need to tell her that and that she is stressing you out and you would like some peace of mind sometimes so you would rather talk to each other than scream at each other. Give it a try if your mom won't listen or give you the respect of listening then tell her that you think that she is wrong for not letting you tell your side. Good Luck, calm down and God Bless.
2006-10-07 00:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a number of self-help books available that will help control your temper. This is a battle you'll have to win by yourself. No anger management techniques will work long-term. You will have to rely on yourself. Medically, try taking Evening Primrose Oil. Stay off alcohol, get 8 hours sleep each night no matter what. Most importantly when you feel yourself bubbling walk away and start breathing deeply. Check your pulse and make sure it doesn't get to rabbit levels. Hope this helps.
2006-10-07 00:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Truman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want help? Then go get it, there's loads of help for you out there .
What makes you get Angry ?
Find out what is ? This would be the first step in
right direction... I get very stressed out . I'm a real life Victor Meldrew / Homer Simpson - Dude Why ??
'Am a family Man, with wife & 2 young lads.'
Should'nt be that way... It's just how i'm made.
Speak to someone mate... DO IT. OK !
Have a chat with your G.P. for starters...
Listen to people, They WILL help you -- Got it ?
Get up Monday morning, Visit your G.P.
Let Me know how you get on ..
I'll be waiting on your e-mail...
Barker.
2006-10-07 09:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by Barker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try taking some Evening Primrose Oil and some Kalms - Both available from the chemist, they helped me and they are both made from natural ingredients, so no chemical crap.
The Evening Primrose Oil takes a weeks or so to start working properly and so take the Kalms to start off with as well, then only take the Kalms if you have a bad start to the day ?.
Hope they help.
2006-10-07 03:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by Richard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you recognize that you have a problem that's a good start. If you are agressive kickboxing and something similar could be beneficial but you ALSO need to talk to some form of counselor and/or therapist that would fit your needs. Many have different ways of helping so just look around. also before getting angry take in a breath and when you breath in expand your stomach and when you breath out let it in. repeat until you become calmer
2006-10-07 00:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With a name like moody i'm not surprised....
How old are you cos if your'e still growing your hormones will play some really funny tricks on you.
Find a way to really chill down that works for you. Once chilled try and explain to your mum that you are having these difficulties - without her butting in - If you feel an episode (red mist) decending WALK AWAY.
Life dont get any easier when youre older so learn a way to deal with it.
2006-10-07 00:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take up boxing or karate or Tai-Kwon-Do Self discipline is important.
I set lines for myself that I will not cross.
I set rules for myself that I will not break. Here are some of my rules, you define your own.
1. Never get angry while sleepy, because I am too sleepy to make sense.
2. Never get angry when I am sick, because I am too sick to think straight.
3. Never get angry in the morning, because I really haven't woken up yet.
4. Never get angry at night, because I am really too tired to make sense.
5. Never get angry when I have been drinking, because I really don't make sense then anyway.
6. Never hold a grudge.
7. Never leave the house without making up.
8. Never get angry when taking medications, such as decongestants, which can cause irritability. I understand that it is the medicine and I am not thinking straight.
Know when it is okay to get angry and when it is not okay. If I see someone beating a pregnant woman, I will get angry.
2006-10-07 00:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋