I JUST MET A WONDERFUL MAN,WEVE FORMED A RELATIONSHIP& I LIKE HIM VERY MUCH.IM SO AFRAID THAT IF HE KNOWS ABOUT ME HAVING HERPES HE WILL RUN.WE HAVE NOT HAD SEX AS OF YET BUT IT IS HEADING IN THAT DIRECTION
2006-10-07 00:21:41 · 10 answers · asked by ebonyonewanted 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Infectious Diseases
I guess the only way is to come out & Say it. But do it before you decide to make love rather than just as you are about to do it.
If he cares about you, he shouldn't be put of.
2006-10-07 00:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 04:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Edie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good woman/person. If the relationship is serious enough for you to be involved in sex then it should also be stable enough for you to sit down with him and explain to him that you do have herpes. BUT I wouldn't wait until the moment that sex was about to happen. I would tell him that you want to go sit and talk. Like bring along a couple cups of coffee and go sit out on the waterfront. Beach area and just start talking. When you're comfortable tell him. But also make sure he understand that he can only catch it if it is active. If he walks away then he doesn't have the feelings for you that are needed or should be there for sex anyway. You will not have lost anything. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 00:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you have genital herpes and not simplex I. First, education is always the best tool. Most people hear the word "Herpes" and run for the hills because they aren't educated about the condition. People with herpes, as you know, can live a normal, sexually active lifestyle.
State facts such as 45 million people nationwide carry the herpes virus, etc. Here is some information for you:
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-Herpes.htm
Again, herpes is not uncommon and if this person is right for you, they will choose you and not the condition.
2006-10-07 00:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Emerson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do other than tell him. You say you have formed a relationship without having sex so obviously he likes you for you. I know it sounds weird but try not to make a big deal of it, you are trying to get it sorted. You've caught it off someone who you had unprotected sex with so mention that it can happen to anyone, you were just unlucky.
2006-10-07 00:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care for this man and the relationship is heading in a more committed or sexual area, then you have to tell him. Telling someone you care about is hard, but be honest and give him the facts about the disease & the ways that you can protect him. If he cares for you he will listen and understand. If he doesn't, then he isn't the one for you. Best Wishes
2006-10-08 03:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by foxiegixxergurl2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definatly need to have this conversation in a vertical positon. Do not wait until "the" moment to have it. Have all of the facts and be willing to answer any and all questions. Understand that there will be concerns. If it is ment to be between the two of you, things will be ok, even if it does take a little bit of time. Good luck. Keep your head up!
2006-10-07 00:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with what eveybody has already said...tell him but dont wait until "the moment" and if he really loves you he will accept you for who you are. and if he walks, then he wasnt worth it anyway.
i just wanted to add that i've been in a sort of a similar situation...had come out of a really bad and abusive relationship and still had a few hangups. i talked openly and honestly with my new partner and allowed him time to think about it and to ask questions. it all worked out in the end and i spent WAY too much time stressing about what i was going to say and how i was going to tell him. hang it there. if hes worth it he will understand and support you. if he walks he really isnt worth it anyway and you will find somebody who deserves you.
2006-10-07 16:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with him. If he runs from this, this he was never meant for you. You definitely wouldn't want to hide this from him, have sex, and then say, "by the way...." That's not good. Be honest. I know it's scary, but it shows you have good character. Good luck.
2006-10-08 04:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by tikizgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly if he cares it wont matter. Tell him you're being treated for them and you want your love making to be special and need to wait until their gone.
2006-10-07 00:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋