i no some one that uses my words as there own. my beliefs and problems are all of a sudden there beliefs and problems. i find this extreamly disturbing. has anyone had this happen to them - what do u suggest i do?
2006-10-06 23:54:54 · 8 answers · asked by antibim 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
its like they dont have any original ideas, just repeating what other peoples stories, ideas, experiences, beliefs etc
2006-10-06 23:58:12 · update #1
Yes... I know what you mean. Its most irritating... especially when they keep talking to others -- that too in front of you- - talking about all YOUR ideas/beliefs as their own!!!!!
Well.... not much you can do but stop talking so much to them about your beliefs/ideas -- and each time they ASK you about them - TELL them that you dont really want to talkt to them coz of what they do. Of course, they will deny it -- and then you have to point out exactly the incidents when they did copy you. THEN tell them that you will tell them what they want to know --as long as they dont copy it -- like they have been doing,
If they STILL dont quit it -- avoidance is still the best bet.
Your second option, though, is just to feel flattered and recognize that they basically dont have ideas of their own and like yours so much that they want them for their own. If it doesnt bother you tooo much, you could just ignore this whole attidue of theirs.... tho I know it IS difficult to do.
2006-10-07 03:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jest21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a partener who did this.she would quote my words as hers.eg: if i was reading about a subject she would find a referance of some sought and copy me.then relate her ideas etc to others.she needed to be inspired but in a sneaky way.i love to share ideas knowledge etc and will back my gal all the way in what ever endevour she choses but it becomes very taxing when it's one sided constantly.
2006-10-07 09:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by zita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, i did this. when i was about sixteen, i found my own beliefs, personality, etc, were getting me nowhere. i was desperately lonely. when i finally found a friend, i was perfectly in awe of her. i wanted to be just like her, and have a life like she did, and i very naturally began to conform to her personality. i know it was annoying for her sometimes. thankfully she stayed with me. eventually i became more confident (mostly owed to her) and was able to have original ideas again. but if it hadn't been for her?...
2006-10-07 07:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a name for that - and the person takes on the personality of the person they are around- it is kind of freaky- or it may be that they are desperate and want to be like you - cause they think you are so cool- and want to be like you- flattering in a strange way- or they have a break w reality and pick up what is around them- is it strange- get a new friend- or maybe refer a counselor to them=
2006-10-07 07:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your beliefs are quite common? when i meet people they seem to have very similar beliefs and problems to mine - but anyway maybe u should talk to that person and see what they say when u confront them. you could be over-reacting.
2006-10-07 23:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of a bird species called parrots? Just ignore them
2006-10-07 07:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by MARS1951 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have one of those too. I say just sit back and enjoy it. It's like having a one man church that worships and emulates you.
2006-10-07 06:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be flattered. They obviously admire you. I've had this. There's no harm in it.... usually.
2006-10-07 06:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋