Why do I hide everything?

Question

I hide my grades from my parents even though they are As and Bs. I hide where I'm going even if it's somewhere I'm supposed to go. I hide the little things and the big things. I don't want anyone to know who I am, even my family. Is there a reason I do this that might make it normal? Do a lot of other people do it? Why do I feel so guilty about everything I do? I am already seeing a counselor, but I have the same problem with him.

Answer 1

The counselor is trying to help you. He can do that best when you open up and tell him about this. My guess is that maybe you don't trust other people. Do you feel that if you hide things from them, you won't be vulnerable to being hurt or betrayed? If that's so, then try to trust your counselor. You know that he wants to help you, not hurt you.

Answer 2

Maybe you are just a highly personal person. My youngest daughter is 19 and tries to hide everything from everyone. She is just a very private personal person and you deserve that right. Then again you could be Bipolar and having a hard time with it. If you can't talk to a Therapist maybe you would like to see a Psychiatrist to see if you are Bipolar. He is not allowed to divulge any information to your parents and there is a possibility that you may need some medications but then again I am not a doctor. Just giving you suggestions on what could be wrong. Good Luck and God Bless you.

Answer 3

As strange as it may sound, ask the counselor to put up on of those folding room screens so you can hide from him while you talk. Or he can maybe hang something up so you can't see him, or put something in your line of sight.
If the counselor is going to do any good for you, you have to talk to him, and if you'd rather do it anonymously, then maybe he'll let you hide from him while you talk.

Answer 4

I can't answer this one but if you're really serious about wanting to know why you hide everything, you have to start opening up to your counsellor.