does not take no for answer
does not follow curfue
hang out with bad crowed
2006-10-06 22:15:18 · 8 answers · asked by Bronco Dad 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
turn your home into a jail or put her in structured foster care she would learn a lesson there
2006-10-10 17:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by penelope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say how old, but have you ever tried consequences. You do have more power than you think. Don't get mad, just enforce the rules. Sit down with your teen and go over the rules. If they come in late, they can't go out the next night. Loss of privileges can work if you are consistent and stick by your list of rules. As far as the bad crowd thing, I'm not sure entirely what you can do except try to get your kid involved in some other things away from those friends. Spend more time doing fun things with your kid and if bad things happen with certain friends, then don't allow them to go out together. Good Luck, I know this parenting thing is extremely hard, it just takes trying new things and finding what works.
2006-10-07 05:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by luveeduvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.doesn't take no for an answer.... tell them hide and watch,when you say no,stick to it!
When kids are told no and they throw temper tantrums and whine, parents give in and therefore create kids that won't take no for an answer.
2.Doesn't follow curfew: If you know or have a friend that is a police officer. Ask them to pick your child up for curfew violation and scare the heck out of kid. Works great!
Hangs with a bad crowd: repeat remedy for 1 and 2
If all that fails, when they leave to go hang out with that crowd. Pack a few of their clothes in safe way bags and sit them outside your front door with an attached note. Tell the child how much you love them but the situation at home just isn't working out.
Tough love is hard on the parent but after the kid sees that "their pals" won't feed or cloth them they come back home with an attitude adjustment
2006-10-07 05:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough love time!
A friend of my mother's had to do this with her daughter. She bought a simple locking doorknob for her daughter's bedroom and kept the key. At curfew, the door was locked, thus leaving her daughter on the couch until the mother woke up for work at 8am. There was much ranting and raving, but she was respecting curfew within 2 weeks. I've always said that if my (eventual) kids ever acted up and turned out curfew, I would use this method. Hypothetically, I always thought one could take it further and lock the refrigerator and turn off the hot water heater at 10am to make sure that a shower was had by that time which would make sleeping in after a late night of illicit activity a rarity.
I don't know if you have a home alarm, but my when I was in high school, my best friend had a midnight curfew because his house's alarm was set at midnight. He had to sleep in his car if he was out later than that because his dad worked odd hours and needed sleep. He always made it in before curfew (until he got a job that he could afford a hotel room every once and again).
2006-10-07 05:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some really good punishments that aren't TO hard on the parent are almost EASY.
- Take away the cell phone / disconnect all except 1 phone (which you have at all times).
- Disable the internet.
- Take away electronics (TV, games), and make sure they CANNOT get them back.
- Don't give them any more money (if you give them an allowance)
- Don't drive them anywhere (if they want to meet friends).
If they don't comply, take away all privilages until they start to. Also, create a day during the week which can be your special day. Do something with them, THAT THEY LIKE TO DO, and show them you care. Explain to them WHY you have the rules, and WHY you expect them to be followed, and that when they do follow the rules, they will be given their privilages -- and even more back!
2006-10-07 06:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by xxxdarksakuraxxx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh but see if ur JDC has a weekend program where you can send ur teen ager. TRUST me if u dont get help for them now its only going to get worse.
My brother was a troubled teen and now since he was allowed to get away with nearly everything... he is a troubled adult.
2006-10-07 09:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
led them into a way that they know what right is from wrong. Don't give empty threats, establish respect for your child, help them with subjects and they will lead in a manner that you reside in
2006-10-07 11:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel guilty about sending them away
2006-10-07 05:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by This girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋