i don't think i have any real friends?

Question

sadly i feel as if i am all alone when it comes to making friends. i runaway from my problems and my family is always in my business. i kind of feel like im stuck in a hole. im 25 and can not function and it feels like everyone drags me down with them when they are sad ughhh..or is this my nature

Answer 1

I notice that yr question is in "diet and fitness." Are you overweight? This can cause low self esteem.

I was about 33 before I realize that the people I hung out with were really friends. Now I am 38 and can count at least 10 people who are really great friends. Remember, you have to be a friend to have onel

Answer 2

you have yourself as a real friend. If you can't fix your problems it's natural to run away from them and as for your family, if you don't like them interfering in your business, I suggest you keep some sort of distance from them. There are millions out there with worse problems than you, so no it's not your nature, because it's not what you asked for. Real friends are the ones you pick.

Answer 3

What is the one thing that makes you happy?
Take that thought and ask people that makes them happy too. Then from there ask other questions, "Have you gone to college? What is/was your major? Do you enjoy your job? What foods do you enjoy?"
Don't bombard them with questions. Say, "I went to So and so university. I majored in fine arts. I enjoy drawing. What about you? What college do/did you go to?"
Don't forget to breath and relax.
Don't look at things negatively. The glass is never half empty! It is ALWAYS half full.
Some days will be crummy. It happens. Don't fell bad.
Smile!

Answer 4

You are your best real friend. Believe in yourself, trust yourself, be honest with yourself, and you won't lack for friends.

Nobody has real friends. We mind our own business.. especially when we get older.

Your family bothers you because they are concerned and don't know the right way to approach you.

First, you have to start by not running away. Be honest with yourself and never compromise your values for anything. Be your best friend, and you'll be happy.

And remember, you're not alone. Alot of people go through this one way or another. This is the journey of life.

Answer 5

a lot of people dont have any friends by Bible standerds a real friend is one that would give their life for u without a second thought

if u only have one friend in your life your doing great

Answer 6

I'm in the same banana boat .... I know how you feel .... like everyday people get worse and things get bad before they get good .... well what I do is acknowledge God , think of good thoughts ,and try to be as positive as I can... try it you might like it.....

Answer 7

A real friend, as opposed to an acquaintance, is someone with whom you are able to share personal information, knowing it will be kept private and not passed on, knowing that this is someone with whom you have some common interest or interests, and that the other individual will loyally defend you against *anything* if necessary and will never doubt what you tell him or her. To have such friend requires a combination of opportunity (you need to be in places where you have the chance to meet such people), and you need to be prepared (the old "preparation meets opportunity" equation is at work here again).
You will need, for the opportunity part, to frequent places wher others with similar interests hang out, whether it is a ten pin bowling alley, an internet cafe, library, bar/Hotel, martial arts centre or whatever places have your hobbies/passions inside of them. For the preparation part, you need a lot of work on your self-esteem, your sense of self-worth. Get a hold of two good books 1) _Self Esteem_ by Gael Lindenfield, and 2) _Free To Be Me_ by Barbara & Terry Tebo with Shelley Neller. Crucially, promise yourself - and then keep that promise - you'll do the exercises in those two books.
Next, pay careful attention to your clothes, grooming and hygiene. Now you're looking and feeling good about who you are, you should be eager to go out to such places, feeling some inner confidence. Talk in a pleasant voice to anyone who looks they could potentially, in time, be a friend, but ensure you - this is a scientifically proven fact, by the way! - talk about them by asking them to talk about about themselves (making sure it doesn't sound like an interrogation). You'll be remembered and thoght of as a "great converationalist"! even when you encouraged them to chat and thy did 99% of the talking! Avoid saying overmuch about yourself and don't tlk about anything negative in your life to them, okay?!!
You are are probably quite sensitive and easily affected by the emotions of others, hence your statement that when others are sad or experiencing negativities, you get dragged down with them. Also, by the age of 25 you frontal lobe will have completed developing and you should not be allowing your family to interfere in your life. Move out of their house or the same area, move into a new place and don't give them the address, keys or phone number... Basically, you need to create barriers between yourself and your family. They need to know you're an adult - and so far you haven't made any headway towards letting them know this, which you soon must do - and they've no right to try to run your affairs nor bringing you down to their level if they're having tough times. As well as the book about self-esteem, which will give you the confidence to create appropriate barriers, read the classic called _When I say No, I Feel Guilty_ as well as Dr. Susan Forward's book, _Emotional Manipulation_ (her _Toxic Parents_ is also helpful).
You do need, I believe, to see a good, acccredited reputable
therapist (one who specialises in self-esteem, dysfunctional families and relationship issues) because you have quite a few issues to work on and need the support of a professional to fully overcome the problems that are plaguing you.
Once you're working with the books/s and therapist on your sense of self-esteem and know you're a worthy man, you'll feel you have the right to create boundaries so others do not dump their emotional problems, as you put it, upon you. Move away from your family as soon as you can and don't give them the details of your new place or, if you choose to, let them know you will only be available by phone or in person for one to two hours a week (preferably less) and ensure they understand when...If that is broken by them, ignore them until they call next week.
Eventually, they will get the message. Until they do, you need the support of a therapist and some good books mentioned.
Once you are free from your family dragging you down and getting into your 'business', you will have no excuses for running away from your problems. Instead, you will, assuming you've followed the exercises in the books mentioned, have the desire to face and deal with your problems and get them sorted out soon you can move on with a happy and successful life, one in which you are not full of self-pity and playing the victim but in which you are a winner who is successful, loved by many around you and attractive to others. When you like yourelf, others will be attracted to you. Leson? You must like, even love, yourself *before* you can expect to meet people who, as friends do, will like you in return!

Answer 8

hi, 1st of all change ur nickname " confused ". change your attitude. no one would like to be a friend of a confused person. be confident or at least behave confident... & you will feel the world changing. cheers

Answer 9

if you like ,i am glad to be your friend!

Answer 10

Welcome to my world.