In Catholicism would this be wrong?

Question

I'm really considering Catholiscism but I am a lesbian. I like being a lesbian and it's not something I want to change nor do I believe it's even possible to change. I understand that it's not that being gay is a sin but that having gay sex is a sin because I can't marry or procreate the natural way. Still I'm wondering what you think. Say I'm in a very committed relationship with a woman of 20 years. I would never cheat on her and she would never cheat on me. We both live good Christian lives and attend mass every week. But to show our love for eachother we have sex from time to time. Is it still just as much of a sin and will I go to hell for it?

I mean I don't even have a girlfriend now and don't plan to for a long time. I also believe that sex before marriage is wrong and that is why I would only have sex with one woman and after we've been together a long time and plan to stay together for life. Can I still be considered a good Catholic if I have sex with a woman?

Answer 1

Yes, it would be wrong. Realize, it is God who makes the rules. Scripture says homosexuality is wrong. Also, be aware that in going to communion scripture tells us that if you receive Jesus Christ in a state of mortal sin it is an act of condemnation. If you are curious about the details about these issues I can look them up for you and explain why it is this way.

We are creatures of habit. Human sexuality start mentally and then it becomes physical. We have free will (choice). Heaven or Hell. When we "fantasize" about doing something sinful we tend to act out our thoughts and feelings. It is similar to working out our muscles. If we do many repetitions we develope endurance muscles. If we increase weights to lift we develope strength muscles. I saw a science magazine showing how the brain dispenses hormones/chemistry based upon how we think.

I can understand you wanting to rationalize it. You are, essentially, a good person. You have a commitment to love your partner. Unfortunately, this is a sin that will condemn you to Hell.
I am a heterosexual and Catholic. Still, I have trouble abiding by the teachings of the Church because I am tempted to disobey God. So, I do not receive Jesus in the blessed sacrament when my soul is not in a state of grace. I would appreciate your prayers for me and I will pray for you.

Answer 2

Please take no offence to what I am saying to you. I am only trying to answer your question in a religious context. You mention that you are a lesbian. This is between you and God. God does frown on it though, because He designed humans of two different sexes. You are saying that you would rather love a woman than a man. In the Catholic and the Christian sense marrying a person of the same sex is a sin. Marriage as God invented it and for the entire history of humankind has always been between a man and a woman. So if you married a woman not only would the sex be a sin, but your marriage as well. If you have sex with a woman you will not be considered a good Catholic by Catholic or Christian standards. People can be harsh and unforgiving and will most likely gossip about you. Christians are not perfect people dispite what some people would say. When Jesus died on the cross he died in the place of all that would believe on His name. All those that believe and follow after Him are pardoned of their sins because of what was done on the cross. You could say that Christians are under the mercy of God. If we deliberatly go against His ways do we really have a part in His sacrifice? If we don't have a part in Jesus' sacrifice will we have a part in His resurrection? If we don't have apart in his resurrection can we have apart in His kindom (heaven)? It sounds to me that you are worried about where you are going to go when your life will end here on earth. Nothing is impossible with God. He can change you. Lesbians have become straight and they have happy families. Don't think because you want to be with a woman that Jesus won't take you. Even Christians sin. We just tend to do it under stress or other situations. The difference is that we don not want to intentionally live lives of sin.

I hope that this will help you.

God Bless.

Answer 3

If you occasionally fall into a temporary sexual relationship with another woman, but don't live together or make a habit of it, forgiveness may be possible in the sacarament of reconciliation, and a relatively normal faith life in the Catholic church could be the result.

If you regularly participate in such activities, or if you live together with another woman and have sex, forgiveness for sins would not be possible, and you would need to refrain from receiving the Eucharist, although you could still attend Mass.

Whether that would be very beneficial under those circumstances is the big question.

Answer 4

NO! Honestly, no! Homosexuality is a pervert temptation of the flesh. You can control it. You simply stay out of homosexual relationships, not just not having gay sex. No kissing, touching, sleeping in the same bed and such. This can be difficult if your temptation is strong. That's why it's called a temptation. The only way to stay away from this sexual temptation is to pray to God for help and strength. The Catholic Church will not baptize you or give you any of the other Sacraments because you are a sexually active gay. If you were baptized Catholic as an infant and decided to be gay at 20, you should not be receiving the Holy Eucharist. This is an abomination.

I suggest that if you truly want to join the Church, talk many times to a priest. Be open and honest with him. He can help you to understand the Church's views on sexual temptations and help guide your prayer life. God can forgive you but once forgiven, you aren't to commit that sin again. I know of a person who is gay, she was baptized as an infant and went through the sacraments of Reconciliation, Confirmation and Marriage. She 'found out' she was gay and divorced her husband and now lives with her girlfriend. She tries to keep it a secret within the Church and she goes to Mass once in a while and will go to Communion. By her receiving Communion with mortal sin on her soul, she is "doubling" her sins and they "keep piling up". She refuses to go to confession because she feels her gay love isn't sinful. But she is well aware of what the Church says about it all. All I can do is pray for her.

If you want to be a Catholic, you have to know all about the religion and believe it to be true and follow God with all your mind, heart and soul. But honestly, I don't think you can if you continue to be in an active gay relationship. I know all Catholics sin, we are all sinners but we can go to confession and have our soul cleansed. But then you shouldn't go back home to your partner and start sinning all over again. I know this is a personal issue and a difficult one. I am being honest with you on what the Church teaches and I can only suggest that you talk a lot with a priest or two. Pray a lot and open your whole being to the Lord. He will guide you in the right direction.

Answer 5

Being a gay or being a lesbian is not the problem of being a good Catholic or Christian. or having sex before marriage If you can keep it secretly(just kidding). We are all sinners and everyday we are all committed sins.But if you do believe in GOD and every words in a sentence you uttered to him everyday are heard,why dont you try to ask HIM the solutions of the problem.I assured you
HE will give you what is the best for you.OUR GOD IS REAL remember????

Answer 6

No, no, no. See a million Corinthians 7, the place Paul talks approximately how if a guy or woman is single, they could proceed to be single. Paul himself replaced into single, bear in mind? clergymen and nuns are forbidden to marry in the event that they like to proceed to be clergymen and nuns. Why? because of the fact the Bible says that if a guy or woman is single, they are worried in basic terms relating to the religious, jointly as though a guy or woman is married, they are inquisitive approximately a thank you to thrill their companion. while a guy or woman is termed to be a clergyman or a nun, it is their selection. They prefer to be celibate, so as that they might concentration on God on my own. it quite is an particularly lofty calling, and not for each guy or woman. As for "graven photographs"...Catholics do no longer "worship" the icons or statues. they are used to deliver Catholics in thoughts of what they characterize. in case you have been to maintain on with the passage in Deuteronomy to its literal, organic end, then it can be a sin to have any sculptures, paintings, or pictures at your residing house of abode. you additionally can no longer have any representation of something, even grape vines, at your residing house of abode. Do you quite think of that's what God meant? as nicely, many Protestant denominations use the pass, the two in worship, and a logo of the Christian faith. Many even positioned on a pass! it truly is under no circumstances a sin, to any extent further than the statues, icons, and paintings that Catholics use are a sin. by how, i'm no longer Catholic (yet).

Answer 7

Why don't you start by accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior and then ask that question? First things first. God loves the sinner, not the sin. Submit your will unto Him and He will guide you and teach you new and wonderful things. Let Him be your guide. Here you will find alot of mixed messages, one thing do remember: JESUS loves you no matter what. Let that keep you in perfect peace. Don't worry about the Catholics, they are in alot of trouble right now, to be judging you.

Answer 8

I fear not not that I am catholic I am christian and am sure its the same as gay sex men should not lie with men as with women it must refer the other way round as equely sorry but unless you come to know Jesus and repent of this sin you are destined for hell

Answer 9

As the Pope says you are intrinsically evil and disordered and is doing all in his power to hinder your equal treatment and civil rights, I'd forget it if I were you.

take a look at the LGCM, they are Anglican but working for an inclusive church, think you'll find a few answers there.
http://www.lgcm.org.uk/

Answer 10

In order to answer your question i need to know what is your purpose for joining the catholic faith, when you already are a christian?