My daughter dresses in extreamely provocative clothing that literally leave nothing to the imagination. She is tall slim and very pretty but always has dressed like a slut. mini skirts, no panties etc. She has a great well paying job (She dresses conservatively for work) she is a happy person. At home she walks around naked or just wearing stiletto heels and stockings. Her mother and I divorced 12 years ago when she was only 8 ? Have any other parents experineces of this type of behaviour and what advice can you give. Is it normal?
2006-10-06 21:17:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her to cover up
2006-10-06 21:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
You do not provide enough detail about your living situaton. You reveal that she walks around naked, (I am assuming she does this all the time, and you have NOT stopped it in the past, - why NOW do you complain, and ARE you complaining?)
Obviously she FEELS comfortable while nude at home, (The dressing in stocking and stillettos while nude is a bit discomfitingthough). Do you think she walks about in the stockings and stillettos because she wants to be a stripper? DO you walk around in your underwear? Is there, or has there been, any incestuous coupling you're not telling us about, or do you think maybe she is trying to "soft-seduce" you? (walking about naked). There are 'holes' in your story (pun intended) that need to be 'filled' and only your daughter can can tell you to how to 'fill' them - or NOT!
One is not 'suddenly' an exhibitionist, it is an acquired taste, (a nudist has to walk naked in house long enough to know they want to be naked outdoors too!) Get it? So before we (of the FREE forums) can render answers that are suitable to your needs, we NEED MORE INFO!
Note: A picture of your daughter wouldn't hurt either!
2006-10-06 22:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Number1son 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I think Dublin boy was an *** making such a remark about your daughter when you are concerned about her mental well being.
That being said, it sounds like she may have been more scarred by the divorce then she ever mentioned. I suspect that if she is living with you, instead of her mother, your divorce was an ugly situation. I would suggest that you try talking to her about it, and let her know that, as her father, you feel very uncomfortable with this sort of behavior. Maybe she needs to talk to her mother as well, to get some things resolved that she has been bottling up for the past 12 years. Or, maybe its her subconscious way of getting back at you for having caused such hurt to she and her mother. Both ideas are mere speculation. But, I would definitely talk with her, and, if possible, see if she would be willing to get professional help.
2006-10-06 21:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by rhino 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
She's happy and she knows where to draw the boundaries, given that she dresses conservatively for work. Given that she has such a great job, I presume she's legally an adult now. That means it's time for you to butt out: your job is done.
There's nothing at all wrong with being naked in the privacy of your own home. It's probably quite a bit more common than you think.
2006-10-06 21:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can speak from your daughters point of view. Make her stop. She wants attention, that's the only reason she dresses that way. She is in need of attention form both her parents, and is headed down a destructive path. Stop it now. Do not allow her to dress this way period. No discussion. Check her before she leaves cause she will try to sneak it. Teach her her worth.
2006-10-06 22:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that was insensitive to say ("Dublin BOY")-- I may not have an answer to your question but I suggest confronting your daughter. She's 20, correct? I am sorry things didn't work out with you and her mother but perhaps that contributed to her rebellious actions. I couldn't tell you, I'm only 19 (close to her age). I know girls like her, one or two at least. Tell her you simply do not approve and give her the ultimatum of following your rules (staying reasonably clothed) or moving out. :) Good luck
2006-10-06 22:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Brian 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So your daughter is now 20 years old, still living with you and doing this. Is it just the two of you or do you have another son or daughter, or a second wife? This arrangement is kind of suspicious.
2006-10-07 04:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for her to get her own place. I like to walk around in my stockings at home too, but It's my apartment and I do what pleases me.
2006-10-08 05:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that would make her 20....hmm she shouldnt be walking around the house wearing heels and stockings, have a chat with her and ask her why she is actually doing it, maybe she just wants attnesion, if she hasnt really had that before, she probably feels insecure.
2006-10-06 21:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by x1gemma1x 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's not normal, but your daughter, just like all of us, is the product of her upbringing. When she was much younger, there was obviously no parental control, no set of values instilled, no limits or boundaries set. So what she is now is the result of your lack of parenting.
2006-10-06 21:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
She is an adult and time for you to let go! What she does at home is hers, not anyone elses! To a point it sounds like she is striking out for male attention (we are assuming) or maybe she is totally in tune with her sexuality! If she is trying to get your goat, then ignore her.
2006-10-06 21:23:51 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋