We're Practically OPPOSITES: Will It work?

Question

Here's the deal

I'm a NON-Smoker--------He Smokes

I dont drink AT ALL--------He Enjoys casual drinking

I'm Religious--------------He's Basically an Atheist

I'm a Chemistry person-----------He's into Classics

I could spend 1 1/2 hrs in an Art Museum-------He Could Go for 5 hrs

I love to laugh, joke, have sense of humor-----He ALWAYS tells bad jokes and "laughs at ignorance"

And the list goes on and on----Furthermore, we have different tastes in music, movies, clothing, hairstyle, etc.

What draws me to him??---Mutual Attraction, and genuine Liking ,etc.

Can we get beyond our Differences??

Answer 1

You might be able to work out some of that stuff, but you're not gonna be able to work out opposite opinions in politics or religion.

Answer 2

If looks are what brought you together, then that is what the relationship will be based on - being able to look at something physically beautiful. As to what you guys do when you are together? no damn clue because nothing matches.

Opposites attract is an overly used phrase. They attract because the opposite is 'something new and exciting,' maybe that something will grow on you or may be you will get bored with it over time. Some differences can be tolerated but some things cannot give - like beliefs.

Answer 3

I would say the drinking, smoking, and the religious could be problems. He could hide that he drinks more often then you think, and you think he just drinks casually. Can you stand smoke, or not? If not, I don't know what to say about.

Are you willing you to kiss someone's smoking breathe? Lastly, atheist isn't bad until your parents find out, and until you want to marriage. You might want to marry him in a church, but he might say no.

On the side note, I wish you could change him to not be an athiest. I have heard a horror story in which I believe to be true about someone who WAS one. This has nothing to do with this life, but the next.

Good luck anyway, and I hope it does work if you do choose this person.

Answer 4

If you ask me practically, it wont work. In the beginning physical attraction is more so we ignore these things and in a new relationship we try to present only the good parts of our life but once you tie the knot you'll expect the other person to change according to your needs and preferences, which usually doesn't happen so the differences arise and broaden just to ruin the relationship.
It's only in books that opposites attract.
Look around yourself all your friends are your friends because you have something in common, maybe you both like movies or you both like getting nicely dressed up.
Some things can be adjusted but you can't change yourself entirely to the other person's preferences.

Answer 5

YES, IT CAN STILL WORK. You don't need to be compatible in ALL ways, it's just a matter of knowing how and meeting in between. What one lacks, the other fills, and vise versa. If you aren't compatible enough, you can always complement on your differences. Find possible similarities that can even bring you closer and make your love for each other bigger.
If you truly love each other as much, you'll be able to accept and work things out beyond its capacity. Goodluck! =)

Answer 6

you just described my wife and I. We have been together for 13 years and are totally opposite.

I like rock
she likes rap and r-n-b

I'm a bargain hunter
she likes name brand

I smoke
she drinks

she is religious
I'm atheist

she is loud and Stern
I'm quiet and laid back

the list goes on and on. Think about it this way, Your strengths will compliment his weaknesses and vise versa. My brother and sister in-laws are the same in almost all ways. I believe that is why they are always fighting. My wife and I hardly ever fight (once or twice a year) and are more happy with every year that comes.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 7

You must have something in common for it work longer than a yr. If you have been together longer than a yr then there is something. Maybe you have something in common that your not looking at.

If this is a short term thing just enjoy it. After all all things must past. this too will past so enjoy the ride.

Answer 8

this will be the stormy passionate relationship of your life time and i say see where it can go time will tell if your loves strong enough to hold out if not there will be pain but its also somthing that i believe in the end you wouldnt give up for for the world! Love as long and as good as you can.

Answer 9

Opposite poles always attract.. this type of relationships really work out.. it is my personal experience. But never don't try to change u according to him nor change him according to u.. love him as he is.. and u will have a fruitful relationship

Answer 10

I would have to say no.
How do you spend so much time with someone that as nothing in common with you. Dont be fooled by physical attraction that will wear off then what will you have to fall back on??