i was a virgin until we met ... i felt such a chemical reaction actually even more than that to this guy that i asked him to make love to me to which he did. since then we have been having sex. and yes he is alot older than me (23, i'm 18) is it still just about sex? don't give me false hope ... it's just that i'm in love with him completely. sex or no sex and i need advice. we have discussed it and he says with or without sex he would still want to be with me. when we have sex it is completely about satifying me. sex? or more?
2006-10-06 20:33:27 · 10 answers · asked by doodlebug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exactly the same thing happened to me. Only my boyfriend told me he loves first, I didn't say it back for a little while. I really hope everything works out for you. Try to look at how he treats you. Does he do sweet little things for you? Does he take you out? Show you off to his friends? Does he hold your hand a lot, tell you you're pretty, kiss you for no reason, do you catch him looking at you when you're not paying attention? If any of these things ring a bell then he does probably feel something more for you. The fact that when you have sex he focuses on you instead of just himself does help it look like you might mean something more to him, but that alone makes it hard to tell. Good luck, I wish you the best. I hope this helped at all. I tried my best.
2006-10-06 20:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by bandbeef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try give sex a break and see who is initiating it. Sex is not just about satisfying one partner, you are in this together. Don't base your relationship on sex because one day that spark will fade and if you don't have friendship as a base then you are screwed- metaphorically. At the end of the day you need to talk about this with him more than us. This is your relationship and communication simply is the most important thing in any relationship.
2006-10-06 20:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by nic j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am touched to read your question. Here goes; since you are 18 and this is your first sexual experience, I would say tht the chances of an infatuation is high. It might not be love.
Think of another guy who is handsome and macho, ask yourself, will you be willing to have sex with him? If your answer is yes, then you are most probably lustful, that any guy godd enough to satisfy you will do. Go ponder.
2006-10-06 21:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have doubts? If not, then I don't see the problem. He says it's not about sex. Do you believe him? Do you trust him? Do you agree with him? If you do have doubts let him know, and ask him to humor you...try not having sex for a fairly long period of time. If no complications arise then it's likely there is a healthy, solid foundation to the relationship.
2006-10-06 20:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are loving one another heart and soul then, yes, its just sex. Making love is way more than the physical. Its also spiritual. Has he asked you to marry him? After all, why buy the cow when the milk is free?
2006-10-06 21:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by marmie5452 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First cut is the deepest. It's hard to say, maybe you need some time a part to figure out what is best for you
2006-10-06 20:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say it is about the sex. guys will tell you what you want to hear to keep getting what they want. try cutting the sex off and see what happens if he leaves then you know what things were all about or if he keeps pressuring you to have sex after being cut off the you know what he is about.
2006-10-06 21:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by njredgrl32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made a terrible mistake, not being married to him and having sex.
2006-10-06 20:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a Q? only he can answer. U have to talk about it w/ him.
2006-10-06 20:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree with the first answer. ?
2006-10-06 20:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋