Okay... it's not about me, but about a girl that I dated...
Well, I guess she likes a couple of guys... It's time for her to kind of pick a suitor...
She told me that she would like to know all of them (guys who chase her), so she can't commit to anything...
She told me and we agreed that "Honesty is the best policy".
I should respect her decisions... I guess...
But my question is... can someone (normal) do that kind of things, exploring opportunity, get to know people, sorting out candidates for suitor?
What do you think about her?
Do you think I should respect her and her decision... and if she decides to pick me in the end..., will she be worthy of my love?
I mean... I'm not ugly (goodlooking as a matter a fact), working in medical field, financially stable, and not a player.
Let me know...
2006-10-06 20:07:58 · 12 answers · asked by Jimmy the Cricket 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry Reality, if life has been hard for you..., but not to me...
I don't want to brag... on how easy for me to get girls whatsoever.
But, quality woman is hard to come by... and she's one of them.
No offensive language please!!! If you want to do that, do it in the NFL match... not here...
2006-10-06 20:13:01 · update #1
Its a case of bad timing.
well, here you are on the backside of an ugly reality about women. maybe not all women, but women that tend to have the goods in the looks department can tend to have overblown ego about it. so she is a tad distant and cold.
and you seem like the typical guy, and the backside and ugly part of this is you are passionate.
here is the back and ugly side of the whole situation. If you REALLY want her?
I am telling you its normal for women to be cold and calculating until they make a best decision for themselves and then they will turn to puty to one degree or another. You on the other hand I imagine are a bit hot around the collar about her, you have to realize that your feelings are aside from whatever decency you might have about you otherwise.
If I were you I'd try to keep a loose tab on her and dont compete so hard for however desireable she might ever actually be. She's really probably not worth your effort at all. You want to be respected as a suitor. She just wants to whimsically play the field and explore her options. Chances are she's one of these bimbos that will be freeloading for quite a long time and will even be questioning her commitment once she is in a marriage.
Dont be that poor guy that has to deal with her.
Keep your own eyes open. Dont try SOO hard. You'll find the girl that recognizes your virtues because its what she wants in a man. I doubt its this one.
2006-10-06 20:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask yourself if "she" is worth it? If so, then maybe you do stick it out and see what happens.. But let her know that you're not waiting forever.. You said it best that you are a catch. It's always good to have self worth. Let her know this so doesn't end up walking all over you. As far as whether she deserves you, maybe take the time she's giving you- voluntarily I might add, to also put her through some hoops. Even though you're openly dating doesn't mean that she calls all the shots. Good luck!
2006-10-07 03:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by KIm Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it kinda sucks for the "suitors" but she's just checking out her options. it depends on how you fell, if it's that deep then you can wait for her to make her decision. If ur not that sure, you can play her game and look around yourself. Sometimes people take advantage of whats right in front of them because they think that thing will always be there. If its meant to be tho, it will happen.
2006-10-07 03:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel you two have quite a lot in common and you feel comfortable with her go about your buisness..things that make you feel good in life workin out whatever and she will come to you when the time is right . You two odviously communicate so I doubt she'll leave you hangen. Give her space. It's attractive when you respect that. It is also good that you're confident..congrads on that. Take care of you.
2006-10-07 03:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her,she's not worth your love. I had quite the same experience,she played me around for a while and all of a sudden she disappeared but now she's back itching for a relationship but now I'm not the same fool I was. Just cut ties with her.
2006-10-07 03:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by soroush_1363_ss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really think that this is no way of gettin a "suitor"...
if u love u love..
and if u dun....u dun...
its a not a pick and choose...
adn however honest she may be...but i think it is wrong..and u think u can live u life always wondering who she is comparing u too at that moment..??
i dun think i cud...its not good for ur self esteem..
and what if she doesnt select u from her list of suitors...are u prepared for the rejection...
2006-10-07 03:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by happinezz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump that hefer if you have to compete, she aint worth it. if she has to make choices between several men she a hoe, its that simple, if she is sleeping around behind your back she a hoe its that simple, it is what is
Peace and love
2006-10-07 03:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by kalela L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on she isn't a good catch at all, how pathetic she is trying all her options before she decides...she doesn't love you or anyone for that matter
2006-10-07 03:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are having any doubts, she probably isn't your soulmate. When you meet the one, you'll know it. Move on, dude.
2006-10-07 03:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by retorik75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh
you can ask her does she love you or does she love them. if she liked them more i sugguest give her space and let her choose who does she want to be with.
2006-10-07 03:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by SimileyDaisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋