i was raped about two weeks ago and i still feel unclean but i have fallen in love with a great guy who i know i can trust but is it normal that i am moving on so fast?
2006-10-06 19:47:21 · 25 answers · asked by GONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok yes i reported the rape and the guy i have fallen for i already liked brfore the rape he is my bestfriend and the way he has treated me after the rape made me fall in love i do know i can trust him
2006-10-06 19:52:47 · update #1
First off...RAPE? 2 weeks ago...and you feelings of LOVE for another guy? YOU need to get counseling to get over what you'd been through before you get involved with some poor soul.
You ARE moving too fast!
oh, okay...hey more power to you both! You need support and comfort but you still need to get counselling for your own identity.
BTW...
KUDOS for reporting it! Fight and catch the S O B!
Best of Luck to you...
2006-10-06 19:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by vikingsonsltw 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i think it is great that you can move on,but most rape victims are not able to move on for some time,they have been violated and there is trust issues with men for them,and sometimes just anyone.It is hard to put feelings out on the table to anyone after such an ordeal such as rape.Honey,i don't mean no harm,but i am so sorry to say what i am about to say,but i am finding it hard to accept the fact that this happened to you,i don't know why you feel that you need the attention on saying this,but rape is a serious matter and not once did you mention going to the hospital,nor going to the police,or what happened to the rapist?Was he caught,did you know him?There is to many questions unsaid here for you to be a legibly raped.There is an old saying "You can't rape the willing"and you are to open for the Internet to have been just raped 2 weeks ago.I pray you are not making things like this up,because you might speak it into reality,and i would hate to see that happen to you or anyone.Like i said i don't mean any harm in my statement,it is just you brought forth a serious issue that i must say bothers me.Please be save and Best wishes and Good Luck to you and your new guy friend!
2006-10-07 03:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ynotme2 says it's normal, but he's a guy, so what does he know? I'm a guy too but I would think that it's not usual to fall in love so soon. I used to work as a R.N. in psychiatry so I have talked to women who have been raped. Usually, if they had a b/f or were married, it was hard for them to allow their men to get intimate with them.
How long have you known this guy that you are in love with? I would suspect that falling in love so soon after a rape "might" be a reaction to it. At least it should be considered. If you have insurance, I suspect they would pay for counseling after a rape, and this would be something you could talk about with the counselor.
I hope that something I've said may help you. I'm so sorry that you were raped and I pray this never happens again. Please do what ever you have to do to stay safe. God bless you.
2006-10-07 03:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You're rushing things, probably because you need the comfort of someone you can trust. It's better than the other way. At least you're getting back on the horse. It would be a miracle if you don't have some intimacy issues after what you went through, be prepared, warn the guy as best you can and let yourself heal.
2006-10-07 02:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by W0LF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is normal but you need to make sure you are not falling so hard just because he is nice to you after the rape. Be sure you start by being friends and let things mature naturally.
2006-10-07 02:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by unwantedname 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday, I read somewhere that we forget to live in our life due to various problems. I mean to say live ur life at full throtle. I understand that it feels u so embarrassing to be raped. But life doesn't end here.
Just take one clear step if u dare to do so. Try explaining the rape fact to that person whom u love so that no matter should be undisclosed before both of u take life's great decision which of being married.
Try to become honest to ur life-partner as to explain him the fact about ur life.
Your and your life-partner's life will become simple and smooth thereafter as the person who will accept u even after knowing the facts of ur blue life will love u the most.
Try this! it will work.
I hope the answer will suffice ur need.
Bye!!!
2006-10-07 02:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by amit_the_invincible 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a question of normalcy, it's a question of intimacy. You want to experience the good feelings that were taken away from you by a guy forcing himself upon you. Hope things work out with this great guy but don't feel that you need to rush things if it's uncomfortable.
2006-10-07 02:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do all the checks and balances to make sure you don't have something first.... cause if you do like him enough to do that..... don't give him something that he can't get rid of... and another thing, you better make sure you're over your rape, if not you'll withdrawal from society, and not be the same person, love is a word used loosely in today's society... so be careful, most guys just want one thing... a faithful woman ! ! what did you think i was going to say ...lol
2006-10-07 02:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by John K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's normal. You need someone you can trust in your life right now. If you do like him so much, you should let him know what happened to you (If he doesn't know already).
I say that because as a guy he might want to get... closer to you, and it might trigger some bad feelings that neither he or you intended.
BTW, my condolences.
2006-10-07 02:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Kren777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks is really fast.
It sounds like you are trying to rid your mind of what happened to you.
You might like the guy a lot but how do you know you love him?
But hey, love is not normal in the sense that it makes you sometimes do crazy things.
2006-10-07 02:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋