A few questions about dating.. (for a 15 year old kid) no too young comments please...unless its NESSISARY?

Question

I am going to ask a few questions.. and i would be happy if no one said Too young or stuff like that unless you think it is realy nessisary.

First some information.
1)i dont know the girl very well
2) i am shy
3)It will be my first girlfriend
4)we are both in grade 10

now the questions;
1)how should i get to know her before i ask her out...im shy ad i dont know here well?
2)After getting to know her what is a good way of leading to and asking her out...?
3)After asking her out where should i take her on our first date...?
4)When sould we have our first kiss?

i know opinions may vary but i will be glad if you even give alittle bit of help...

thanks

Answer 1

1. You can't use your being shy as an excuse, or else you won't get anywhere. Force yourself to befriend her. Try hanging out with her group once in a while, or say hi to her and small talk with her whenever you see her. Simple things like that will lead her to be more friendly toward you. (:
2. Don't rush the process. Gradually talk to her more often and get to know her first before you do anything. When you talk to her, make it seem like you are happy to talk to her. (:
3. If you should ask her out, and she should say yes, then for your first date, do a group date. That way, you guys won't feel akward, since there are your other friends there with you. You can maybe go out to dinner and go to the movies; something simple like that is nice.
4. You shouldn't designate where you should have your first kiss. I guess you'll know when the right time is to kiss? Don't force it.

Right now I think you're thinking too far ahead. You don't even really know the girl yet! Get to know her first before you even consider asking her out.

Answer 2

Awwww! Okay. I'll help :).

1) Talk with her about school, ask her what some of the things she likes are, like her favourite movie and song and stuff. Then you'll get to know her a bit, and she'll find that you are wanting to get to know her. You just have to be bold and try your best to talk to her.

2) When you feel the time is right, mention that you guys should hang out outside of school, maybe to a movie? But leave it really open and friendly. And if she sounds interested, pick a specific day and time and set it up.

3) Movies are good because you can just go and sit there quiet, there's no awkwardness. And if it goes well, you can go out for a bite after. That's a classic first date.

4) I think it depends on how the night goes. Just remember that there's no rush. It might be nice tonot kiss on the first date, just so she doesn't feel too rushed or overwhelmed or anything. Not saying that you shouldn't kiss her on the first date for sure, because I mean, you guys could have total fireworks on your date, who knows. It's got to be when the time is right, and I think that you will just naturally know when that is.

I hope that helps at least a bit. Best of luck, it'll be just fine :).

Answer 3

Start by walking with her to class, eating lunch together, stuff like that. Can you walk her home after school (not go in, just walk her home and then move on). This will give you time to talk without having to look straight at her too much - helps in the shyness department. See if she would want to have a picnic in the park, or just go for a walk there if you have a nearby park. What about bowling or skating? What are you good at? Does your school or youth group offer mixers or dances? Once you get over your shyness a bit (and trust me - you will), ask her to go to dinner or movies or something. What about the zoo or a museum? Do you both like to roller blade perhaps? Is there a paved trail for that near you? Are you into scientific things or archeology digs? What about an arcade with games? There could be a festival of some kind in the area that would be fun to attend. Find out her interests, and if they are something you would like to do too, ask her out to do that. Don't push sex. It is not a cool thing to do no matter what you hear. Guys sometimes like to brag - and they are not the studs they act like if they do that. It is an act. Don't pressure her, just relax and get to know her in other ways. She is a whole person, not just a body to mess with (I had to throw that in). When you kiss her, you will know it is the right time to do it as she will give you signs - or she just may kiss you first! You never know. There is no plan for that, it just seems to happen. Above all, there is no reason to be shy or nervous, as I am sure you will do fine if you just relax. Best wishes!

Answer 4

First I respect your asking for advice. I have a 15 year old daughter going through this also. I think you should try to talk to her maybe offer to help with homework. I think you could tell her you are attracted to her and maybe ask her to a movie or somewhere to go just talk talk of similar interests and such. You'll get a feel if she's intersted or not by her reaction. I know it's hard cause your shy but you have to take that risk or you'll never know. Good luck.

Answer 5

My daughter is 16 and beleive it or not i was 16 at one time..LOL.

To get to know her, just talk to her in school, hang out at school and ball games. Ask her to a dance or a game.

Just go up to her and ask her, she will let you know if she is interested or if she just wants to be friends. If the later is the case, find another girl that you like and start again

a ball game or a pizza is a grat 1st date.

you will know when the time is right for the first kiss, I promise. Just don't move too fast on her. Show her respect, and things will go a lot smoother for you both.

Answer 6

If you have classes with her talk to her say hi, & try to talk to her about things she likes, ask her if you don't know.
After a while of geting to know her maybe give it a month, you should go for it & ask her out :) I think the movies would be a GREAT place to go 4 your 1st date.
& I think you should kiss when the time is right.

Answer 7

start with a hi and be yourself, if you try to be phony, it usually shows. Talk about something she could easily talk about like class or teacher. Play it by ear from there. Movie or bowling are usually safe bets for a date or just a soda at the 7-11

Answer 8

Hey just try to keep your cool and dont stumble when you go to talking .Just tell her you really like her and you would like to meet on your breaks or during school lunch.If everything works out ok then you can have your mom drop the two of you off at the movies.This is where your age needs to be mentioned. MAN just go up and let her know how you feel before one of your buddys beat you to it

Answer 9

Stop analyzing everything. Just ask her to a specific activity like movies and hot chocolate. Then play it all by ear or you will lose her interest. Just ASK!