Why are guys so shy?

Question

ok, so I'm not thinking I'm unattractive etc. used to do modelling etc. I just find that I am never approached by men unless they are two (actually 10) sheets to the wind - I don't know what to do to become more approachable, I'm friendly, I try but seriously unless I go up to a guy - nothing - I never get guys asking me out. Do I come across as a snob/unavailable? I'm sooooo not but I never get asked out.

Answer 1

alot of guys r shy because alot of them dont want to hear the girl say no. usually they r not shy when we r drunk.

Answer 2

The problem may be that you are TOO attractive. You may actually be intimidating to men, without even knowing it (which might explain why they need to drink to get the courage to approach you). During high school all my friends always had dates, yet I sat home alone many a Friday night. It wasn't until a few years ago that I ran into a guy I knew in school and he said he always liked me but that he felt I was "out of his league", and said most other guys felt the same.

So this could be the problem. The right guy is out there for you, just be patient. You could also do the asking. Look at it this way, YOU get the luxury of choosing. I am enjoying that immensely now!

And just a little friendly advice - do NOT click on the "cute man" answer, which I believe was first. He's probably a predator and you can just wait a week and see him on Dateline.

Answer 3

Believe it or not most guys are intimidated by attractive women. You sound like just the sort of lady who would make the typical guy a little unsure of himself. You are attractive, self confident, and poised. The deal is most normal guys are thinking you wouldn't be interested in them because they are not featured on the cover of romance novels like our good friend Fabio. The problem is not you, it's the guys. Best thing to do is just relax and be yourself. Smile a lot and let your sense of humor show. Once men realize you are just as friendly as you are beautiful they will relax too. And it doesn't take very long really if the guy is paying attention. A friendly smile and a quick joke will give most any man a gentle boost of confidence, at least enough to say hello and start to get to know you a little better. Just watch out for the self confident "God's gift to women" type. Well, you know about those guys...

Answer 4

It's not you. As one of the girls said, it may be that you are very attractive. More agressive girls may have shot down these guys in the past making it more difficult to approach a different one that they find attractive. It's OK to make the first move too *smile*

Answer 5

Really attractive girls scare the crap out of most guys. The amount of guts it takes to approach a girl rises exponentially with her attractiveness level.

Also, Out of a dozen or so good guy friends of mine, only two learned to read signals before the age of 25. Most of those signs you think are really obvious fly right over our heads.

Answer 6

Try asking the guy your interested in out. After that happens he will come out of his shell. Sometimes we don't ask really pretty girls out because we figure they must have a boyfriend and we don't want to be shot down.

Answer 7

Maybe you can urge things along by dropping hints of your availability. Letting people know that you're single will normally give them the courage to tell you how they really feel.

Answer 8

some guys get SOO nervous, they freeze and they can't work up the nerve to even hold eye contact with a girl they like. and that's the same with some girls too, right?

Answer 9

Its a male ego thing. Men are worried that women will think that they are weak or gay if they open up to a woman.

Answer 10

don't worry i'm like that too. i don't think i'm ugly, people think i'm really beautiful, but no one ever asked me out. ever! but i'm totally ok with it. i don't have to worry about any dates any possible date rapes and stuff like that, getting drunk and stuff. though i don't do that latter either.