i met this guy about a month ago that i really like. i'm a soph in high school, and he's a junior at our rival high school. we have so many things in common, from loving the same sports, to so many other things.
whenever we hang out, he's always around me, and when i leave for a few minutes to do something, i come back to find that he was looking for me. he's not clingy though. we have a lot of things to talk about whenever we're together.
but whenever we're not hanging out in person, and i try to reach him through myspace or e-mail, he never responds. it's like he disappears or doesn't want me around or something. i know he has a very busy life, and of course it doesn't revolve around me because we're just friends. does anyone think he's purposely ignoring me, or could it be something else? (maybe he doesn't like to talk online much?)
thank you SO MUCH to whoever gives me a thoughtful answer. this has been on my mind for some time, and i just wanted someone else's input.
2006-10-06 19:05:24 · 14 answers · asked by Valeria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
doesn't answer texts too!
2006-10-06 19:11:10 · update #1
Ask him or ask to be more involved in his life...as in meet some of his friends
2006-10-06 19:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by kayro3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned to never think the worst when it comes to the nitty gritty details that come with men. They don't obsess about why she said that or didn't call. So don't stress. I recommend you go with the belief that maybe he doesn't like communicating over the Internet. I hardly write anyone. lol. I talk to them over msn. Sometimes they don't even respond asap. That is because most people are multitasking when on msn. This is probably the case. If you want to contact him I would suggest just giving him a phone call and asking him if he would like to hang out. That way there is no pressure and it is not a formal date. Also, if you want the opportunity for something to pursue from your meeting, Make the "meeting" later in the afternoon/night(ideal). This is so you can dress sexily so he won't be able to resist just kissing you. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 02:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just not talk online that much. A lot of my friends will call me up frequently but never check their e-mail or MySpace. Also it could be the fact that being around you makes him feel special. The physical closeness it what makes him look for you and he just hasn't adapted the mental closeness. Just talk on the phone/in person more to find out what he is truly like.
2006-10-07 02:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by linkbaseball 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give this guy a challenge. Guys like to do the pursuing, and let's face it we girls are good at playing a little hard to get. Let him call or email you. I guarantee if he is interested in you, he'd be calling or emailing you. Back off and give him the chance to show you that he is interested. I know it's not the easiest thing to do, but trust me when I say nothing is more unattractive than a needy, insecure girl. Gather your self-respect and show some confidence. He'll find you if he wants to.
2006-10-07 02:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're so close when hanging out, what does he say when you mention that you tried to email him? Are you sure he's actively online? Is he receiving your emails but just not responding? Are you sure you have the right address? If you're enjoying yourself in his company, just go with the flow of that. You say you're not looking for more, that you're just friends, so just accept him on that level. If you two get more serious, then wondering how he spends his time becomes valid, but not now.
2006-10-07 02:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that he doesnt want to seem clingy or too attached because you guys are just friends. Or it might be he is busy. But if he doesnt ignore you in person, then you dont have anything to worry about. If you like him, you should let him know so he'll make time to answer your emails and things like that.
Good Luck
2006-10-07 02:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grl u know what? that is the situation im in right now! lol. no seriously were in the exact same situation. you should give him alittle more time because he doesn't know what he wants or doesn't want to rush anything. you also might have doubts on what hes thinking because he doesnt talk online much. but don't give up! play hard to get and he'll want you more :)
2006-10-07 02:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it doesn't mean he likes or doesn't like you in the way that you do him.
Besides, he probably doesn't even know how you feel, right?
Guys can be dodos at times. They can't read your mind, or your gestures or what not.
It takes straightforwardness to get to them.
If you like him, slowly give him more hints.
IF he gets the clue and he likes you and wants to take it to the next level, he will.
In the meantime, relax. No big deal. It's not like he rejected you.
2006-10-07 02:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by denh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is in love with you friends a lot of times do fall in love i know you are the way you talk he maybe shy so you make the move i smell love in the air go for it
2006-10-07 02:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't check his my space... like me... and doesn't get on the computer much in the first place. I suggest you get off the computer and contact him in the real world if you want to get something more than friendship
2006-10-07 02:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by KimBauer24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋