im a tall girl and never been at comfort with my body, that was until i got with my boyfriend 4 years ago when i was 15 at the time he was 17 and i was very tall then.he made me fell better.i m now 19 and was discovered by a minor modelling scout. my boyfriend has always been great to me. since ive been in contact with an modelling agent my boyfriend wants nothing to do with me. hes moved out of our flat in to his mates house. when i went around he slammed the door in my face and got his mate to hurl abuse to me out of the window. i dont understand.i ve told him i wont go any further with the modelling and has told me unless i quit it he wants nothing to do with me . i sent him a present and a card saying im sorry for even thinking about the modelling ,he took the gift but wrote a nasty messagr to me on the card.im thinking about ringing the agent tomorrow and telling her it is not for me. am i making a big mistake.
2006-10-06 18:48:01 · 14 answers · asked by stephanie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you even considering living your life at the whim of someone else?
Do what is best for you, not some childish man/boy who can't handle your own potential success.
Sorry, but he sounds like a complete putz.
2006-10-06 18:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by lowflyer1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, YES! You are making a huge mistake...but not in the way you think you are. You're being a typical girl who is taking all the blame on yourself and trying to work everything out to make your boyfriend happy. The problem is, your boyfriend is (I don't say this often at all), a jerk. Think about it this way: he should accept you for who you are and the opportunities that have come your way. That's awesome that you've been spotted to do some modelling, I'm so proud of you! Your boyfriend should definitely feel the same way and support you, no matter what you're doing. That shows some bad character and inability to adapt to other's needs right there. Secondly, moving out is pretty harsh. But not so bad as slamming the door in your face. That is downright rude. A normal person wouldn't do that to anyone but a criminal! Then getting his buddy to do his dirty work of yelling at you...keeping thoughtful gifts, but thanking you with nasty notes...Please realize that you deserve SO MUCH better than this guy. I can understand the fear of change, moving on and leaving someone who used to make you feel so great and was so close to you, but...you have to move on, hun. The things he has been doing to you are borderline harrassment, and he is so not worth leaving your career over. At this point you have to realize that he doesn't want you in his life, and you need to gradually accept that and realize that it's really better that way. Move on, continue modelling, and find a guy who understands you, loves you, cares for you deeply and won't use you. I know you can do it. Best of luck! :)
2006-10-06 19:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your bf sounds immature. Like if he doesnt get his way then he'll throw a fit. Dont stop the modelling. It might be a very rewarding career for you. Try to talk to your bf and explain as calmy as possible about how this is important for you. Even better, have you bf explain how he feels about the situation. Have him tell you what part of it makes him angry. You both need to talk and figure out the problem. If not, Im sure there are plenty of great guys that would love to date a model.
2006-10-06 18:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has reasons by saying this, but heres what I would recommend. Try to influence your drinking friends that it will not help you in the long-run, and that they will have a life after highschool, a life rather than highschool partying. I don't think your christian friend is going about it the right way. Jesus didn't stay away from the sinners, HE ATE WITH THEM, AND WENT TO THEIR HOUSES. This was for the reason to influence them for good. I think that you should try to influence them, and if you fail, there is nothing lost. Just don't get sucked into what they are doing is what you have to be careful about. Always deny even the smallest amount of alcohol, because it may tempt you.
2016-03-28 00:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for what u know! dont let him keep u from pursuing ur dreams if he cant handle it then forget him. most men are afaid of their mate being more successful than them. if he can stay with u because u want to go for modeling then u need to forget him and do that modeling thing. it will help u in the long run. just be careful out there
2006-10-06 18:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by good4u06@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL....... DON'T DO THIS TO YOURSELF. What he's doing is really immature. Believe me, if your good enough to be given a modeling job, you'll find a good man. Doing the modeling, might be just the thing for you, many other women would kill for that chance. If you think about it, what kind of "man" would take the gift, then talk bad to you? Go ............get on that runway GIRL you deserve it!.........BEST OF LUCK........LATER
2006-10-06 19:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by veteranpainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your boyfriend is insecure. He might think that your modeling career might take you away from him. He needs to support you if this is what you want. This shows how much he respects your decisions. Ýou really don't need people like him by your side. Think about it. Good Luck.
2006-10-06 18:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by CR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy needs to get the stick out of his butt. He should be happy for you that you are getting to do something that you really want to do.
Go with the modeling.
2006-10-06 18:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Akfek_Branford 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want? if you are not happy noone around is happy.
If you go back to your boyfriend, never,never tell him, I would been model, but choose you.
2006-10-06 18:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by justmejimw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SOUND LIKE HE JEALOUS OF WHAT SEEM LIKE A
GOOD THING FOR YOU. AND IF THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT
TO DO THEN DONT LET HIM OR ANY ONE STOP YOU
THIS MAY BE A DREAM COME TRUE. GOOD LUCK AND
YOU GO GIRL, HOPE EVERYTHING WORK OUT FOR YOU.
2006-10-06 19:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋