2006-10-06 18:47:30 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I would love them no matter what.
2006-10-06 18:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by buttercup 5 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I would put my arms around them and hug em and tell them that I love em nomatter what and I want to help them any way I can.
I would wait for them to share with me whatever they choose rather than ask lots of questions. I think my reaction would be similar to the ones I have given to announcements that they broke up with someone. It is not exactly the same thing but my main concern would be that they feel safe in the world. by that I mean as safe as one can normaly be...and that varies by location location location.I would want to know how they are coping with any teasing or harrassment and if that is even an issue.
If they wanted the family to move to a more gay friendly area of the country I would even look into that to help reduce harrassment opportunities....
and thats the truth.... Pliiiithhhhh....edith ann
2006-10-07 00:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by surfnsfree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How did I react?? I have aready been thru this and yes it broke my heart to know that my daughter will never have any children of her own, I would love to see some miniatures of her running around. However I told her I still loved her and that I was not her judge. She is actually bi-sexual. She had a husband that used to beat on her and so when she met the woman she was with she told me she loved her, and I accept it as best I can. She said that the only ones that accept it is me and my youngest daughter. I can only pray that she is happy.
2006-10-06 21:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let him get it all off his chest, all the fear he'd been feeling, and all of the anger for having to keep it to himself. Then I would give him what I always have, my unconditional love and support. The dialogue would remain open and productive. I would make sure he knew that home was still going to be the warm and safe place it has always been. I would be very sure that he didn't have a misconception that he was wrong, or going to hell and would make sure he knew that being who he was meant to be is exactly the correct way to live. I would be concerned for him only because of the trials and tribulations he would face from ignorant bigots, but both my boys (I am proud to say) have a strong moral base and have been prepared to weather whatever difficult matters that life may bring their way.
2006-10-06 19:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my daughter told me she was a lesbian, I would do everything in my power to make sure she knew I was happy if she was, that I was still in her corner, and that she was still loved unconditionally. Life is hard, and love is harder, straight or not; hating your child because s/he won't be bringing you biological grandchildren is ludicrous.
To those parents who would react harshly to their gay/lesbian child: Would you rather have your child (assuming they were 15+, and not 5) at peace with who they were, treading their path in life carefully and confidently, and living a good life? Or psychologically roiling, directionless, and aimlessly/willfully living a high-drama existence ending in numerous accidental children, moral ambivalence, or even death?
FYI, my fellow Christians: No one in the Bible ever condemned homosexuality on its own merits! Even in Sodom and Gomorrah, God destroyed the people there based on what was in their hearts first, not their loins. (This is in the book of Genesis, which includes war, slavery, pestilence, adultery, old-fashioned pandering, and incest-- even among the "good guys"!)
It's most accurate to pinpoint the origin of "homosexuality is wrong" to the ascendancy of the early Catholic church's business side, whose indulgence-peddling elders realized that if people weren't having children, it put a serious kink in the income stream, since childless couples never bought indulgences from priests to heal their children-- or their parents-- of anything. The solution: outlaw any coupling that didn't result in children. The indulgences that could be sold to worried parents-- especially after the Plague-- would roll in and make the Church rich, and give more impressive cathedrals from which to bastardize homosexuality as "against God" and large numbers of children as "ordained by God".
2006-10-06 19:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by jrsydevl74 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would hold them close to my heart and ask them if the world was kind to them. I would ask them why they didn't tell me earlier so that I could love them even more, if that were possible, considering how the rest of the world, full of bigots and uninformed buffoons, might be treating them. I would advise them of safe sex. Then I would go out with them and their gay friends and get to know them better. Love your children the way they are. If they are gay, they are even more special.
2006-10-06 19:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by the_sunil 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Too be honest with you SPOOKY my wife and i have discussed this very situation. I am not worried about his happening though because of the conversations that we have had about sex with our son and his interests in girls. if this were to happen though i would be inwardly disappointed and too be honest more than a little disgusted. Saying that (I hope i don't sound homophobic)...it would not stop me from loving my son and supporting his decisions. After all you cant pick who you are going to love it just happens, like breathing. Love between a parent and a child should be unconditional. I love my son gay or straight nothing will ever change that. Peace too you.
2006-10-06 19:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
I would sit them down and talk to them....not because I think being gay is wrong, I wouldn't try to convince them otherwise, but I would want them to be sure. This is a country full of bigotry, and that's a tough path to follow.
If they're sure, then more power to them. They'd get the same speeches gay or straight, don't sleep with someone you don't love, etc...
2006-10-06 18:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Mira♥ 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
My heart would break, knowing that he/she would have a hard time in life trying to overcome hatred and bigotry. It would not change my love for that child, and might even magnify it, knowing that I would have to be a champion on his/her behalf. I would give my child all the support he/she needed and would educate myself.
2006-10-06 19:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by AuroraDawn 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I don't think I'd mind it. Of course this is theoretical, because I don't even have children. But since I don't have a square inch of homophobia, I think I wouldn't care, as long as they told me they are happy. That would be enough for me.
2006-10-06 18:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him if he was sure, and then to celebrate his trust in his family, and his courage in coming out to us, my husband and I would take him to the Pride Parade the next May and walk right beside him the WHOLE WAY with my face painted pink!!!!!!!!!!
The Bible says God loves ALL of us!
2006-10-06 18:53:36 · answer #11 · answered by Angela M 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋